Post # 1
Hello fellow fusion brides. I’m curious to know what everyone is doing with respect to the structure of their weddings. With the help of this board I think I’ve finally overcome the food-dilemma, but right now we’re thinking 2 ceremonies and 1 reception.
To save costs i.e. feeding ppl at the Indian ceremony, we are thinking we might just try and do everything in one day. We can get the Hindu ceremony to under 1 hour with our Punditji… Our reception cost per person is REALLY REALLY high so we’d rather not feed the masses twice if we can avoid it and its become standard to feed lunch and dinner if you’re doing the ceremony before noon. Plus its a hassle to figure out photographer/videographer.
Here are the options I’m considering:
1- Early afternoon = Hindu Ceremony, Cocktails for an hour-ish, Anglo-saxon ceremony straight into dinner; OR
2- Catholic Ceremony in the day (like 1-2pm), then meet at reception hall around 4:30 for Hindu Ceremony into cocktails (Doli/a few pictures/changing) and then reception; OR
The biggest issue now is how to incorporate the doli, the photos and the change of dress!!! Yikes! The Doli is really important to my parents obviously, so I am thinking the second option might be the best to avoid being rushed and to get enough pictures in (I am a bit of traditionalist so kinda don’t want to do the “first look” thing).
Curious to know what everyone else is doing! 🙂
Post # 3
@sheera: I should also point out we’re doing a non-denominational ceremony with a Minister instead of a pure Catholic one.
Post # 4
Sheera, is this an option?
Early afternoon = A-S ceremony, light refreshments for an hour-ish (tea etc.), then Hindu ceremony followed by cocktails & dinner.
Will you have enough time to change between the ceremonies if its only an hour gap? That’s the main issue I can see, but then you’ll be dressed appropriately for the doli at the end of the evening. I’ve attended a wedding like that & it worked well, though it was a really long day. That’s why I sort of like your option 2 – there’s a break where you & your guests can get a bit of a break, change if they want to etc.
Post # 5
I share your fear and don’t think its enough time. We’ll need to take pictures after the A-S and then also change/get ready for the Indian ceremony.
Its not as nice for our guests but I’m almost leaning towards an earlier A-S ceremony and then a bigger gap so ppl can go home etc. Right now the gap is about 2.5 hours which isn’t enough time for most of my guests to get home and back in rush hour traffic…Doing a 12pm-1pm ceremony would give them 3.5 which is perhaps more reasonable (though something tells me the Indians will still be late haha ;). The other choice is doing it even earlier in the morning but my FI is against that.
Our wedding will be a Friday so I think inevitably not as many ppl will come to the first ceremony anyways…
Post # 6
@sheera: I think you’e right to move the ceremony earlier so you have enough time for pictures & to change. One thing – if you do the ceremony at Noon, what will your plans be for lunch for your guests? They might expect to be fed given the timing.
Post # 7
@Zaara:I know…I had the same thought. Thats the dilemma again. I think it either has to be like 10:30 – 11:30 and not at noon. We can’t afford to feed people anymore given our reception costs are quite high.
Post # 8
This is what we are doing! We are having a small Hindu ceremony on Friday MORNING with a tea and coffee bar and passed hors d’oeuvres ONLY. On Saturday we will be having the night reception and church wedding.
Post # 9
Sadly that would be the best solution but there are Saturdays left at any of the venues we like!
Post # 10
Karissa, that morning timing seems like a good solution if you are having two ceremonies. I like the idea of offering tea & something for prasad after the hindu ceremony in the morning.
Sheera, that timing could also work for your western ceremony, and I think there’s no necessity to offer refreshments if that’s the morning timing. I have to admit I’m thankful we’ve only got one ceremony to plan – we’re probably going to do a morning ceremony (baraat at 10:30 or so), followed by lunch & then doli at 2 pm ish. The logistics of 2 aren’t easy – good luck with whatever you decide.
Post # 11
It sounds like you want two, separate, full ceremonies. Would you consider combining them? We are simply combining the essential elements of both into one hour-long ceremony, which simplifies our lives somewhat. I am wearing a sari and he will probably wear a suit. We are also doing a western courthouse wedding a few days earlier for which I’ll wear the white dress — but this is immediate family only.
Someone told me that if you have the Catholic one before noon, which can traditionally be followed with a cake-and-punch reception, you could then feed people the main meal after the Hindu one later in the day.
Post # 12
@sheera: My fiance will be having 2 ceremonies in 1 day (Christian/Hindu). We are having the Christian ceremony at 11am, followed by a light lunch, and will be having the Hindu Ceremony around 4-4:30, followed by the cocktail hour and reception. Hopefully it should work for us and give us enough time to take pics and get changed in between ceremonies. It is also very helpful that we are having both the ceremonies and the reception all at the same venue. Good luck!
Post # 13
Ours – on the same day as yours 🙂 though I’m Catholic and he’s Hindu
Catholic ceremony at church 11 AM 1.5 hrs
Hosted luncheon at hotels for guests while we take pictures and change – one Indian one American. Downside is church is 15 min away from second site.
Hindu ceremony 4:30 1.5 hrs
Dinner and Dancing to Follow at location of Hindu ceremony
Post # 14
Hope this is helpful!
My husband is jewish and I’m Hindu, and we got married in November. Everything went amazingly well.Here”s what we did:
10:00 AM Baarat
10:30 AM Hindu ceremony
Noon Hindu buffet lunch (worked out pretty cheap)., you could do light refreshments during the ceremony instead.
5:30 PM Jewish Ceremony
6:30 PM Cocktail hour
7:30 Reception – plated dinner
Everything started ridiculously on time, and we definitely need the gap between the two ceremonies for not only changing, but for pictures! Since there are two sets of outfits, each one requires a photo session, so make sure you leave time for both. If you need any advice or help, please feel free to message.