(Closed) Sacramental only Catholic marriage before civil/legal?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Most of the decisions really aren’t up to the individuals. Sometimes individual priests don’t follow the rules, but there really isn’t supposed to be variation.

The Catholic Church prefers that the sacramental marriage be the legal one. They probably will not do a “sacramental only” one before your wedding. That being said, you could still do it as planned and then have the big service later. I’m assuming its not the legal side that will make you feel really married anyway, but the spiritual one, so I would think it wouldn’t make you feel more married than you would be already.If that makes sense. I don’t know, I just woke up.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@maery1: Yeah, sorry, what I meant is you can have a Catholic & legal marriage beforehand and still have a non-denominational wedding and that be the one that you really start your married life at. But I don’t think they will do a sacramental marriage without it being legal as well.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The catholic church will not recognize your marriage until it is done at a church. Many of my friends had a sacramental wedding many many years (and children) later. My church does them all the time. ( marries people who already consider themselves married) And as for preists, yes they are all difffernt, some super follow the rules and are appalled at the idea of doing otherwise but some are more lax and accomodating! good luck figuring it all out! Most priests wont even marry you at another venue unless they marry you first in the church. This is why im doing a church wedding. knock it all out at once! good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

convalidation? Ive never heard of that, though my friend did say they call it something different when you have had a civil ceremony first.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The best thing to do is call up your church and priest and ask. My cousin had a private (family only) Catholic ceremony (sacramental and everything) the Friday evening before her big Saturday nondemoninational wedding… I’m not sure of the logistics though because I was only 18 and not yet interested in weddings.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

@maery1:  Congrats!!  I am glad it’s working out for you!

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