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I really love my ring and feel that it's perfect for me, and I know I shouldn't care about what others think, but I'm so annoyed and sad at a comment that was made last night about my ring.  I went to dinner with co workers, and one girl was talking about someone that we knew who just got married, and she said "Her ring makes yours look tiny."  My center stone is over 2 carats, and the total carat weight of my ring is 2.3.  It bothered me because I really really wanted a diamond on the bigger side, and for someone to call it tiny is upsetting.  I know it's not like Kim Kardashian style, and I know I shouldn't let other people's comments bother me, but it did and now I feel self conscious. :(

@LGenz:  Wow, I'm sorry but I thought this was supposed to be a supportive website and forum.  Thanks.

@Snow2bunny:  I know, I totally should have called her out on being rude - sometimes I'm too nice for my own good I guess.  

To be fair, she said "her ring makes yours look tiny", which is usually the type of thing said when something is big in comparison to another big thing (i.e., that battleship makes the cruise ship look tiny - cruise ship is still MASSIVE but the battleship happens to be bigger). I don't really think it was any sort of attempt to make a dig at your ring or call it tiny. Just the opposite, in fact - they were referencing your ring as a large one.

Aww, don't let what other people say bother you.  You love your ring and that is what matters.  And you have to realize that a 2+ carat center stone is objectively a large ring, compared to what the average bride has.

My first reaction on reading the post was that your co-worker wasn't insulting your ring or implying your ring was small at all. I think she was just trying to describe how large this other person's ring was by using your ring as a standard for a large ring.  It reminds me of the time a friend was telling me about a cruise she went on and said, "The boat was so huge, it made the Titanic look small."  Was she really saying the Titanic was small?  Not at all.  She was using it as a well-known example of a large ship.  I'm thinking this co-worker may have been referring to your ring in the same way -- as a well-known (among your coworkers) example of a large ring.  

@Ms.VW:  True, I never thought about it that way.  I know it's lame that I let this comment bug me....but I can't help it, it just did!  Oh well...

@Bostongrl25: I agree!

Anyways, a 2 carat ring is in NO WAY small or even close to being small. I only wish I had your problem.

I once saw a funny quote... "Bras are for support, not internet strangers"

Sorry, but it's too funny not to share.  I agree with @Bostongrl25: that she was probably just remarking that the other person's ring was so outrageously huge that it made your enormous rock look small.  I'd let it roll off my back if I were you :)

I think what she meant was that your diamond is BIG -- that's why she was using yours as the comparison. It's like when someone says, "that zit makes Mt. Everest look tiny!" (sorry, gross, that was what popped into my head). In other words, this other gal's diamond is so huge that it's even bigger than your diamond, which is quite large itself.

But bad word choice on her part, for sure, and I understand how you feel. I got some comments on my ring, too, that hurt my feelings. People can be thoughtless.

@jocember:  I can't believe we not only took the comment the same way, we came up with almost identical examples at the same time!!

Yeah, I don't think she was trying to be rude. And why are you even worrying about what other people think of your ring? A ring is not a freaking competition. I wish women would stop trying to make it one.

@Neva:  Bahahaha, fantastic! Love it :D

when i first read your post i felt the same way you did, kind of shocked but then reading the other posts, i think they are right, it sounds like it was meant to be a comparison. 

by no means is a 2 carat diamond tiny.

@AshleyR83:  She said 2 carats is tiny??? What is wrong with people! My brother just bought his fiance a .5 carat and he's very proud of it! Don't let other people sway your opinion on your engagement ring. I'm sure its gorgeous!

Sorry, I don't think the comment was negative at all.  It seems like she meant "Her ring is so enormous, it makes your large 1 look tiny".  It doesn't sound like she was being mean or backhanded to you at all.

@AshleyR83:  um, it sounds like she was commenting on how HUGE the other girl's ring was, not saying that yours was small.  is it a tactless thing to say?  sure.  are you being a bit sensitive?  probably.

@RunsWithBears:  yeah, i'm going to stick up for LGenz too.  seriously, you have a 2+ ct ring.  you KNOW it's not small.