Post # 1
We got our e-pics taken earlier this week and our photographer posted a few preview photos on Facebook. The photos themselves are great. It’s me that’s the problem.
I really think I am not photogenic at all. In fact I think I photograph horribly. When I look in the mirror I am usually happy with what I see but I have never had a single photo of myself that I love. I don’t know what the camera does to my face, but I hate it.
For whatever reason I thought my face would be better in my e-pics – professional photog and equipment vs. friends/amateurs, right? But after seeing the previews, I am sadder than ever. I still think I photograph horribly and now I’m worried about my wedding day. I don’t want to hate every single picture of our beautiful day just because my face doesn’t photograph well.
I guess I’m just feeling insecure and could use some cheering up. Here’s the link to our pics. Am I making a big deal over nothing?
Post # 3
I think you’re being a little hard on yourself. You are an attractive girl. Sometimes we are our own worst critics.
I know for myself I always hate when I initally see myself in photos. I go straight to pointing out flaws in my head and get down on myself. Then after a little time has passed I’ll go back and realize it’s not so bad as the initial shock at first.
You can really see the love and warmth you two have for each other. I think that’s what is most important to convey in engagement photos.
Post # 4
Also, from what I can see in your photographers other photos they use a very bright filter. I don’t know if it’s a filter exactly, but the light on the photos is turned up. Again, I’m not a photographer so I don’t know what the technical term is, but it can make people look washed out. From what I see you’re a natural makeup kind of girl, so when the wedding day comes I’d use a little more than what I normally wear. I think that will help out a lot.
Post # 5
Your photos are adorable! You two look so happy and in love.
I totally sympathize with you, though. We’re all our own biggest critics. I’m certainly that way about my own photographs. I do a weird smile whenever a camera is pointed at me (remember Chandler from Friends? He smiled oddly during his engagement pics? Yeah…I do that). So–on that note, I don’t think you’re making a big deal over nothing. Your feelings are valid–whatever they are.
However, I will say that looking at your pictures, I don’t see what you’re seeing. As I mentioned above, I think these are great photos! You look lovely, especially in the third and fourth ones!
You’ll look amazing on your day. Just be sure to relax and focus on the moment. If you focus on your happiness rather than the cameras–it’ll translate into the photographs.
Post # 6
@HeyKaraoke: Your photos are way cute and so are you! I think you’re being too hard on yourself. However, talk to the photog about what it is, exactly, that you don’t like about how your face turns up in photos so you guys can figure out what to do about it in terms of makeup/lighting/filters/editing/whatever!
Post # 7
Echoing what others have said: we are usually our own worst critics! I recently needed either a head shot or a decent photo of myself, adn trying to find one left me even more depressed. I started to focus on different things I disliked about how I look (ex. my smile is crooked, I’m pasty pale, nose like no one else in my family). While the nose example isn’t necessarily something that makes me hideous, I focus on it. It makes me feel unattractive. I’m the type of person who makes lists, so a friend suggested that I make a list of things I like about myself. Those things didn’t need to be physical, adn none of them were at first so my friend said I had to include at least three things I liked about myself physically. When I feel lousy (either about how I look, or for any other reason) I pull that list out. Not sure if it would help you, but maybe give it a shot? You could also ask those close to you what they like about you.
Now, you look very pretty! I love the last picture of the two of you. I do know that I’m pasty pale,but most photography washes me out even more so. When I know I’m getting my photo taken, I add a touch more bronzer AND blush than normal – it makes a huge difference
Post # 8
Well, I think you are absolutely stunning- a real natural beauty.
But obviously that isn’t going to help if you don’t like the pictures.
What I do suggest is that, between now and the wedding, you practice a ‘photograph face’. I used to HATE having my picture taken, but over time I have developed a face I put on when I’m photographed- I pull a very static smile that feels OTT when I’m doing it, but it actually comes out looking OK and it means that in all posed pictures I look exactly the same! I don’t tend to look very nice in spontaneous/unposed photos, so for me it was a way of taking control and getting over the whole camera fear thing. The photograph face feels weird at first, but once you get used to it, it makes things quite easy.
Also, I suggest that you have a good indepth consultation with your make-up artist (or practice doing your own) so you get a look that’s comfortable for you and works with your overall style for the day.
But I think you’re a really beautiful woman 🙂
Post # 9
I think you really need to wear more makeup in your photos. It’s a necessity just to look like ourselves sometimes! The camera does that.
Post # 10
@HeyKaraoke: You look great!!!! I was going to ask “why on earth do you feel bad about them” but then the fact that you posted this actually makes me feel better because even I feel a little blah about our wedding pics. Everybody else loves them but I think I photograph poorly… I guess we really are quite harsh on ourselves, huh?
Post # 11
@HeyKaraoke: Have your makeup professionally done for the wedding. You will look fine. I am married to a photographer and I know that makeup really helps with professional pictures (although not as necesaary for cell phone pics)
Post # 12
LOVE yourself! Don’t beat yourself up please. Life gets crazy and hectic enough that you don’t need a hater (yourself)
Post # 13
You can’t really see your face TBH in 3 of the pics, so I would not be worrying right now! You look very photogenic in the 4th!
Post # 14
I think you both look amazing! You are beautiful and you look so happy in your pictures. I love the one where you’re holding up the ‘we do’ letters. SO cute! Don’t be too hard on yourself…we’re our own worst critics and I can assure you that no one else will see what you see!
Post # 15
I think you are gorgeous and these photos will be ones you’ll treasure forever! Your love for each other shines through and it’s beautiful!
I NEVER thought I’d say it, since I’m really not into beauty/fashion, but the photos of myself that I am happiest with are the ones in which I had professional makeup done. It shouldn’t be that case, but something about the way cameras and lighting work just make it that way!
Post # 16
I think you two look fantastic! We are our worst critics, don’t be so down on yourself.