(Closed) Sad about leaving home and a little worried about newlywed life

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think what you’re going through is normal for your situation. I don’t know how things will turn out for you, but make sure that you take time for yourself.  Sometimes living within someone in a confined space can add to the anxiety and stresses of change.  I still meet my mother out every Wednesday for dinner. It can help with adjustments. (I lived with DH before we got married, but I am super close to my family)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m also superclose with my family. And although I lived away from home when I was in college. I have been living with them for the past 9 months and will continue to until my FI and I move in together after our wedding. We will be living on the other side of the country from them, so I know the adjustment will be hard. But I am so excited to start our new life together πŸ™‚

Hopefully things will go smoothly with your transition into married life. I’m sure they will. Just remember to keep communication open with your husband and address any issues you may be having. And also remember that you don’t have to cut communication off with your parents cold turkey after you get married. You can still talk and get together and continue your close relationship, just in a different fashion.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Honestly, I don’t know if it would be easier if you had lived on your own.  I’ve had my own apartment for six years and I have anxiety about giving up my own space and moving into my fiance’s house.  I just think change can be really hard and moving into a new living situation is scary even if you deeply love the person you’re moving in with.   I definately relate to what you’re feeling.  One thing that is comforting me is to give myself permission to relax into the process.  It’s not going to feel normal on day one and will probably take months and years of little tweaks and adjustments before we’re experts at making a home together (if one can ever be an expert!)  Since you will have a small living space, I’d encourage you to find a few of your own activities (if you don’t have them already) or make lots of dates with your new husband so you don’t get cabin fever.  It is scary, but I think we’re both going to be pleasantly surprised about how much we enjoy creating a home with the one we love. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i moved in with my FI about 2 years ago, but had the same feelings you are having now – it was a huge transition, complete with me crying a bit on moving day (not because of anything bad, just because of the “big-ness” of it)

if youre close with your parents, stay close with your parents!  i talk to my mom everyday (at least once ha) and my dad often as well – how far will your new apmt be from your parents?  do weekly visits, or dinners, or anything to help you in the transition.  theres no right or wrong way, and it is hard, so just go at your own pace and push through it.  and dont forget to include your FH on how youre feeling – he’ll help you a lot too

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think what you are feeling is completely normal and the fact that you realize it’s going to be an adjustment is good. I think this will prepare you more to deal with any bumps along the way versus girls who thinks it’s all going to be peaches & cream πŸ™‚ 

You know what? Living with your husband won’t always be easy. But it will be worth it. Good luck.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I don’t think there’s any other way to put it… living with another person IS hard!  And being a newlywed isn’t easy.  But, you love the person and you want to work it out… so you try… and you grow…. and in the end, you’re better for it.

I look back at when me and my hubby first moved in together (small, one bedroom apartment) and can laugh about some of the arguments, or things that I was uncomfortable with at first.  (It driving me nuts he left the water running while helping clean up the kitchen; having an ‘accident’ while on my period)

What’s important to keep in mind is that just about everyone will go through the same things, but your situation will always be unique to you and your fiance.  Just have patience when you want to strangle him for not folding the towels right… again.  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i felt the same way, even though i had moved out of home before. it just felt so weird knowing that this time was for good. it also was scary to think that there was no parents home to run back to.

however, i agree with everyone that married life is really great. but sometimes i do get nostalgic, but my husband feels the same way and we support eachother during those times.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I first moved out of my parent’s house.. I felt like I lost everything. My mom is my best friend and living with the FI, at first, I felt like I had to wear makeup nonstop, and look like some barbiedoll. But after a while, I realized, he loves me for me, not for how I do my makeup

 

Good luck and hope all goes well! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t have any actual advice for you but just wanted to let you know you are not alone! I am 24 and living at home since college, as is my FI, and I am super excited to move in with him, but also feeling sad about leaving the home/town/parents I have lived in/with for my entire life! I can’t talk about leaving my town without tearing up, which is ridiculous considering I don’t even have any friends still living here!

Anyway just wanted to let you know that I can totally relate, I am sure this is really normal. Things are going to be great and we’ll all get used to everything. Good luck with the wedding!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I first moved out of my parent’s house.. I felt like I lost everything. My mom is my best friend and living with the FI, at first, I felt like I had to wear makeup nonstop, and look like some barbiedoll. But after a while, I realized, he loves me for me, not for how I do my makeup

 

Good luck and hope all goes well! πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can relate! :o) I’m 25, and have lived at home since I graduated college (because I was/am paying for grad school and now the wedding). I’ve also never lived with my FI, but when we finally get married, I will be moving 17 hours and many states away from my family, who I am super close with, too! It’s definitely scary, but I’m excited to see what the future holds. Hang in there, girl!! ;o)

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I also feel that way!!! After college i moved back home and then eneded up going back to school and long story short, am 26 and still live at home. I have a great relationship with my parents and love my house/neighboorhood. I spend the night at my fiance’s a lot but it’s SO nice to always be able to come back to my comfort zone, especially if i’m annoyed with him. LOL It will be a huge adjustment…. So girl, you are not alone in this one!!!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yep most def not alone!! I spend alot of time with my sister but after getting married I have to move to another state.  It is hard but I know he’s the one I want to be with so …. = )

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