Post # 1
SO and I aren’t engaged yet, but we’ve been trying to figure out how much money we would spend on a wedding so we know how much we need to save.
We’ve always dreamed of getting married at the hotel we used to work at and met at. It’s a really beautiful hotel, but it would have been so much more significant to us because of the history we have there.
I called to find out how much it would be and they don’t have rooms to accommodate ~100-125 people. Their smallest room seats 60 and then it jumps up to 250. Also, their food and beverage minimum alone is 24k, which is 4k over what we want to spend on the entire wedding itself.
Time to let the dream go. I always knew it was a possibility we wouldn’t be able to get married there, but I’m still a little bummed and wanted to vent for a minute. Oh well, at least I found out now before we get engaged and have plenty of time to come up with other options!
Anyone else have to give up on their dream venue? What did you end up doing?
Post # 3
Just a suggestion – is it possible to cut your guestlist down to 60? Would you be able to get the 60 person room for your budget? Have you checked alternative nights? Or a day wedding? Did you call them and tell them your history and budget and ask them if there’s anything they could do for you?
Post # 4
@valardohaeris: I’m sorry about that. Have you considered to possibly have a bridal shower there? (if it’s ok price wise)
Post # 5
I’m so sorry it doesn’t look like it’s going to work out… Can you talk to an event co-ordinator about doing it on a Friday in the off-season for less? Or trying for a former employee discount?
Post # 6
@valardohaeris: We kept our dream venue by having a brunch reception. We’re having a small wedding like you – so didn’t meet the minimum, not even close! Have you spoken to anyone at the hotel? They may be able to accomodate you! I encourage you to speak to someone there about your story. Best of luck!!!
Post # 7
Aww that stinks. I always dreamed of getting married at the butterfly gardens in our city and it too was way too expensive. I had to let it go and found an amazing alternative. Now after the wedding I am so glad I chose the venue I did, not only was it cheaper but such the better value!
Maybe see if you can have the rehersal dinner or something there instead if it is cheaper?!
Post # 8
@futuremrsk18: Thanks for the suggestions! Unfortunately, I don’t know if it would be possible to cut down to 60 because 80 out of the estimated 120 are family. The other suggestions might work, though!
@ButterflyKisses13: Never considered it before, but I like the idea!
@Hippos: I’ve been to the butterfly gardens in Indy! It’s beautiful. I’m sorry you had to let it go, but I’m glad you found something better. The rehearsal dinner is a great idea. I would still like to do something with the hotel, even if we can’t get married there.
@BrandNewBride: @Astra: Thanks for the suggestions! The last we heard, the hotel is being sold, so there’s always the chance that things could change. Maybe we’ll look into it more seriously once we’re engaged.
Post # 9
We had a similar situation and are going to book for the Saturday after thanksgiving instead of our ideal oct early nov date. Our only guests that travel for the holiday travel here so it won’t be an issue. By doing this we are only having for our cermony site fee and our cocktail & rexeption fee will be waived.
I know it sounds bad but use emotional, when I visit visited our venue the coordinator and I talked about my SO & I. When I told her we wouldn’t be able to afford it she told me she just loved our story and wanted us to have our dream wedding & now were making it happen 🙂
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear this. I ran into the same problem. My dream venue was $10,000 over my entire wedding budget. I had a really hard time letting it go, but in order to keep it some way involved in our wedding my fiance and I have decided to host our brunch the next day there for our families. I can live with that. It broke my heart to let it go, but after doing a lot of thinking about it it really was way too expensive for what we were getting. We ended up going with something half the price that offered so much more. I know it hurts now, but I promise something will happen and it’ll all work out exactly how its supposed to. Cheer up. 🙂