Post # 1
I just wanted someplace to share how my mom and I’s search for her MOB outfit is kind of bringing me down.
We went shopping today for the first time. My mom’s been putting it off because she wanted to lose weight, but I guess she’s decided it’s not really going to happen because she’s kind of plateaued. For practically everything she tried on she complained about how she needs to lose weight. And honestly, it IS harder to find good designs for plus-sizes. We actually found something that looked AWESOME on her, and she loved the jacket. Well, we looked at the price tag and it was $870! So that is probably not an option.
I never know what to say to her about the weight issue, because her weight actually really bothers me. It makes me really worried about her health now and in the future, as well as her self-confidence. For example (regarding the self-confidence), she normally has a short haircut because she likes short hair and she has an edgy personal style, but today she said that she’s been growing her hair out because she didn’t want to look like ‘a fat boy’ on my wedding day. 🙁 I just want her to feel that she looks great on my wedding day (and every other day)!
My parents don’t have a lot of money… but I actually make a decent amount (if you forget my crazy student loans). I feel like $900 would be well-spent to get my mom an outfit she feels good in, but I doubt that would make them feel very good to know that they couldn’t help me financially and that I stepped in to buy her outfit.
Well, it just makes me sad to know that my mom feels so down on herself.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear you are going though this. My mom has also been working on losing weight for my wedding. I am really proud of her and how committed she has been (she has lost about 30lbs since Jan!…she has been doing weight watchers). She also has a very difficult to fit body (even without the extra weight) so she is having a dress made. There are a ton of inexpensive dressmakers in our area (we are also having bridesmaid dress made at same place). Is this an option for your mom? If you can get pics of the dress she likes a dress maker may be able to replicate it for a lot less.
Post # 4
Congratulations to your mom! That sounds great. 30 lbs in 4-5 months is impressive. I was just wondering if Weight Watchers would be worth looking into.
My mom is actually really talented at sewing (she made her own wedding dress and used to sew clothes for all of us a lot), so she’s thinking of sewing her own outfit for the wedding. I’m more just concerned about her self-image. But thanks for the thought!
Post # 5
I think that if your mom wants to sew her outfit that would be awesome. You could both go to the fabric store and look for a pattern as close to the same style as the one you found today, and then pick out the fabric. If you go to Joanns, you can use a 40% off coupon for each cut of fabric. You could also offer to pay all or half of the cost for her. I am sure that if she sees you excited about it it will help her selfesteem issues.
Post # 6
If your mom is going to sew her own dress, she should start NOW and plan to finish it by next month. Trust me, your mom will have issues with the first draft of her dress and try to redo it, so she’s going to need extra time.
My mom has similar issues with self-image. Clothing shopping in general is a tramatic experience when you think your body is ugly no matter what outfit you put on. All the stores around here sell the same old same old styles, so I plan to take my mom dress shopping soon in Chicago where we can find a better selection.
It’s true that you should find something your parents can pay for. Usually your wedding is a time for your parents to help you pay for things, not the other way around, and I’m sure your mom just doesn’t want to be a burden on you. Good luck on your search!
Post # 7
It sounds like my mom’s decided on making her own outfit as a back-up idea if we don’t find anything good. I think after looking on Sunday she realized finding an outfit might be harder than she thought, so we’re on a quest now!
I’m not sure what Joann’s is like, and I’m pretty sure we don’t have that in Canada, but apparently my mom already priced out the cost of the fabric she wants. It’s not cheap, but not as expensive as nice formalwear usually costs.
Jenbrandner, good luck in your search too!
Post # 8
Check out UllaPopken.com
There are a few styles that may work for your mom, and the prices are reasonable.
Best wishes to you and your mom.
Post # 9
Thanks for the suggestion and well wishes, sudslover!