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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Today is 10 years that he's been gone.

    I wrote this at work, about my feelings as I walked out the door. 

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    Just having a very, very difficult day.  Missing my wonderful and loving dad, who was also an amazing grandfather too.Sad Anniversary Today..Just Missing Dad. :  wedding Icon Sad   

     

     
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    jhphi    January 1, 2008  

    Belle,

    I'm so sorry about the loss of your father-- it's amazing how quickly and strongly the feelings of pain and hurt can return when faced with such an anniversary.  I hope you're finding comfort tonight in your memories of him, and in sharing these with your son. 

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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Thank you so very much Jhphi.  So much has happened in these 10 years.  I had been sorta feeling wierd all day, until right before I left and when i signed the actual date, it all hit me at work (I work in healthcare).  I saw a patient as I was leaving today who reminded me of him and his last struggle and I just left in tears.

     
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    fontgoddess    August 8, 2009   British Columbia, Canada

    I lost my dad May 29, 8 years ago. It's still like a knife in the heart sometimes. Hugs & prayers for you. 

     
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    oyster    July 2010   Dallas

    The year I get married will be 10 years for me, too... I was 20 when my dad died six days before Father's day. It's awful, isn't it? Hugs for you & your family.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    (((Fontgoddess & Mitla))).  Hugs back to the both of you.

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    Hugs to you Belle. It's been 5 and a half years since I lost my mom. I miss her every day but the worst day most recently was the first day I went wedding dress shopping. I was so excited and busy that day but the morning after it hit me and I cried the entire 45 minute drive to work. The day she died also happens to be my fiance's birthday. So this past December, even though I still thought about her, I had a reason to celebrate and enjoy the day for the first time.

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    Tanya123      

    I'm so sorry. Bellenga.  I have to say, I actually have no experience in this department...  But I will say, my husband lost his mom on Mother's Day.  And Mother's Days pretty much sucked for him, until we had kids.  Then they were worth celebrating again.  Maybe you can make every June 9th a day to go out with your son and have fun.  Then you can honor and celebrate and remember your dad, as joyously as he's thinking of you right now.

    {{{{Hugs}}}}}}

     
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    sweetdaisy    10/24/2009   NY, NY

    My father died 10 months ago and my wedding is in October.  I miss him more than words can possibly describe.  I don't have any words of wisdom or comfort other than to let you know I'll say a little prayer for everyone who has posted here tonight.  Hugs.

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Ah it's been 7 and 1/2 years since I lost my sweet daughter Shawnee. There will forever be this big hole in my heart until the day we are reunited. I can only imagine how different this wedding would be if she was still here. She would have been so into the wedding planning, so much more so than me. I can almost picture her helping me to pick out everything from dresses to flowers to invites. She would have loved it. We were so close and she always made such a fuss over me for holidays and my birthday. She always told me how beautiful she thought I was. Certain days I am sure to cry, like her angel(death) date, her birthday and especially Christmas. We didn't have a lot of money while she was growing up so we always made "right merry" and celebrated with making cookies, music, going to the Nutcracker ballet. I miss her so and will until the day I die.

    Bellenga, please know your Dad is with you in spirit, today and everyday. He will be there when you celebrate your wedding and when you feel that light touch on your shoulder or brush against your cheek, you will pause and realize he is there.

     Lots of hugs...

     

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Thanks so much everybody and special hugs to Bluespurrs.  I wish you comfort and peace also and to all who were so kind to post here.

    I just miss him everyday.  I went thru alot in the last 10 years and made some huge life changes and wish he would have been there, my rock, my strong, not so silent but somehow very easy going dad.

    He was very young when he passed, 58, and just became a grandfather and had another grandson on the way and a precious grandaughter, my neice who was then 3 and a half.

    My sis and I had a bittersweet talk today and we both were a bit silent somehow.  Later I went for a nice walk with my son.  We talked about him and how he would have loved listening to the frogs near the wetland area in our subdivison. My dad used to laugh about me catching baby frogs in the summer.

    I just miss him.  I miss the sound of his truck when he'd pull into the driveway.  I miss the way he would say my name. Even how he'd leave a voicemail for me on the phone. 

     
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    travelchick    July 2009   New York

    Bellenga, my heart and thoughts are with you. Heartfelt hugs.  I finished reading your blog with tears streaming down my face.  It is a beautiful post and I am sure that your father knows every word you wrote.  You have celebrated and honored him with your words today.  I wish you lots of love today as you spend time with you son.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    My dad's would-be 60th birthday just passed on June 3rd.  Sadly, he only made it to 50.  I miss him too, but I like to remember that I miss him so much because I was so very lucky to have had him in the first place.

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    Many ((((Hugs)))) to you today Bellenga!!!! You know he's watching over you! Much love hon!

     

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