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posted 3 years ago in Emotional

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Newbee

choover Boston

Thanks for posting this... I'm actually in the exact same situation (we even have the same wedding date as you!) and I'm really upset about it too. It makes me feel like they don't care, like they're just going through the motions but aren't putting any real thought into what I might like. It breaks my heart because I would absolutely be the first one to throw any of these ladies a shower or birthday party or anything else... and I'm also afraid that after the wedding I am going to resent them. I wish we could find a solution but know that I can totally sympathize with you.

3 years ago

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Hostess

7,536 posts

Bumble
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bellenga July 31, 2010 Georgia

As somebody who will most likely be in the same situation as you are in, I feel for you so very much! Hive hugs to you!

But I have a somewhat different take on it. Even one (maybe more on this thread but one I can immediatley recall) here did not know that the b'maids are to throw a shower for the bride to be!

There seems to be these days alot of lackadasical (sp?) attitudes about weddings and honestly, I doubt that many who haven't been either engaged or married before now would know much about weddings at all muchless a time honored tradition that the bridesmaids give the bride a shower. So to me, there's a whole shift from what etiquette would say do and what happens now, if you will.

Maybe whisper in your MOH's ear that during the wedding weekend they could give you their shower? When all are there? That's something I know we might do.

I just think the days of women truly following the Vanderbilt book of etiquette or Miss Manners is somewhat past (I love tradition though!) or many simply haven't LEARNED yet what to do because they themselves have not ventured down the path to wedded bliss!

3 years ago

43.

Member

385 posts

Helper bee

Laura27 Oklahoma

I always thought that you got two showers. Your wedding shower where you register for household stuff. Where I'm from usually the aunts, cousins, or close friends of the families throw these. Then there's the bridal shower that the bridesmaids throw where the bride gets lingerie and girly stuff. Am I totally wrong or is it just done this way in my region?

3 years ago

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Member

188 posts

Blushing bee

mvp_bride July 18, 2009 Austin

I'm so sorry that you're sad during this special time! I sympathize with the lack of excitement. I've been very frustrated with the future in-laws and finally cornered my fiance and asked him if they were upset about the wedding for some reason. He claims that they're happy about it even though no one has shown any interest. I hope someone comes through for you, but if not, remember that when it comes down to it, the wedding is about you and your future husband, and he'll be there for you even when those friends aren't!

3 years ago