Sad- don't know what to expect. Could use some advice…

posted 1 week ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

hnblomquist :  Excuse my ignorance, but how do you see a heartbeat without a fetal pole? I’ve never heard of that – the fetal pole is the actual baby, so without visualizing a fetal pole, I would assume you wouldn’t see a heartbeat?

Was your ultrasound done transvaginally? I’m wondering if the doctor or us tech just was unable to get a good focus (or long enough to get measurements)? I know with my earlier scans (transvaginally) I could see the yolk sac when the wand was at a certain angle but not at others.

I still think it is a positive sign that you were able to measure a HB and it’s more likely your dates are slightly off or your little babe is measuring a few days behind, which is no big deal at this stage! Fingers crossed your repeat ultrasound next week gives you answers! Congratulations again!

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

I agree with 

BeverlyGeese :  unless you know for sure when you ovulated by temping your dates could easily be off.  Also remember that super early on when they measure everything even the slightly millimeter has the biggest difference. At this point I guess you just have to take the mindset “today I’m pregnant”.  That’s what they tell many of us who have been through infertility or miscarriage (myself included). 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I agree. “Today you are pregnant, I cannot control anything else”. Take things one day at a time. I think the fact that you can see a heartbeat is a good sign.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My first US at 7W1D showed exatly what PP’s pics showed….there was a little heartbeat, but it was very slow, and I couldn’t see the pole in the pics I had. Try to remember that at this size even a half a mm makes a BIG difference, which is why they want you to be 10 days +/- what they think you should be…

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

hnblomquist :  First of all, if you weren’t really charting, chances are you could be perfectly fine and just a little behind. Chance of MC goes down after a HB is detected on an ultrasound so try to find comfort in that. I was 7 weeks at my first scan and while exciting and seeing the heartbeat, it’s like “it’s just kind of a blob, not a baby yet”. The 12 week scan gave me more of that feeling I was expecting with the first. Might have to do with the risk of MC and constant fear between scans (even when they’re perfect) that things are developing. 

Aside from that, I definitely understand the fear. I just had a HUGE scare at my anatomy scan. We left the ultrasound on cloud 9 seeing how much baby had grown. When my OB came in for the appointment, EVERYTHING changed. She said she suspected our baby had a congenital diaphhragmic hernia. Hole in the diaphragm that allows intestines, stomach, etc to creep into the chest cavity and prevent lung development. Could require surgery before birth or if not, within days of it. Would likely result in additonal health problems as well if baby survived.

I went 4 days over a holiday weekend with family in town for a planned gender reveal before we could see the maternal fetal specialist. We kept up with the plans just to stay distracted and it helped, but I didn’t sleep much at all over those days. Long story short, the maternal fetal specialist didn’t see ANY issues and our baby girl is healthy as far as they can tell/see. He even told me to have a glass of wine and relax. That said, days later I’m still struggling to let it go and accept she’s ok. It’s such an emotional time and any reaction you have is perfectly normal.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Not sure if this is an option where you live but I switched from a doctor to midwives when I was about 12w and it was the best decision ever. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

raspberrymojito :  same! My midiwfe program focuses on whole food diets, exercise, being outside, using doulas, mental health, the role of the partner, and many other aspects of a healthy pregnancy that my OB practice didn’t.  My OB also told me within the first ten minutes of my first appointment  that I’d probably need a C-section (long story, and no, I didn’t). Sigh. Not to say that all midwives are the same and all OBs are the same, but it’s a stark difference where I live.

OP what’s important is you find a practice you are comfortable with, whether that’s an OB or a midwife. Good luck and hope you continue to get good news!

Post # 25
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Newbee

Good luck!! Let us know how it goes and post a picture if you get one! 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hoping it goes well!!! Fingers crossed for a good update!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

Wonderful update!!! Congrats 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

Wow that is wonderful!! I hope you do decide to change your OB. She put you through some undue stress. All the best to you and your growing family.

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