- 7 years ago
I am very disappointed, not sure if it’s directly at anyone in general but I am just blah now for Christmas.
So a little back story, my DH and I have not spoken to his mother or sister since our wedding over the summer. Not going to go into the long story of it all you can read it in my past post, but basically they couldn’t accept me or our relationship and did some pretty bad things all the way up until the wedding that we no longer welcome them in our life.
My FIL who is divorced from the MIL has always been 100% on our side, since the wedding his daughter has not spoken to him because of who knows what issues. This is the same daughter that allowed him to be punched in the face at our RD by my MIL and somehow she is mad at my FIL, go figure.
Anway, my DH and I really wanted to start some family traditions of our own, so we wanted to host Christmas Eve dinner since my mom does a big Christmas Day thing. His Dad before we even thought of the great idea to do Xmas Eve said he was coming to visit us for Christmas. GREAT! We are beyond thrilled, I know that this year will be tough for my DH being that things are so bad with the rest of his family that having his Dad there with us will be what he needs. So we go forth and start planning Christmas Eve dinner. I do things big and grand so of course I’m totally excited to host this event. About a month ago, his Dad drops the bomb on us that he isn’t going to be able to make it for Christmas Eve but will be here for Christmas, so I am bummed, my DH is bummed, so my mom god love her, says she will swap Christmas Day with me and she will do Christmas Eve so I can do the Day so we can do it up nice for my DH Dad. Awesome, so we tell him this and he says great! So I go forth and I order all my food, a nice big crown roast, all my antipast, the works. I am beyond excited. My family normally eats around 12 but with his Dad traveling in we all agreed to eat at 3:30 to make it easier on him.
For the last week my DH has been trying to get a hold of his Dad, leaving messages, texts, no return calls. I know this is really strange as his Dad never doesn’t return our calls and we speak to him once a week or twice a week. Well DH finally is able to get him on the phone late Sat night, I am in the other room, and I just hear my DH very quietly saying, okay okay, no I know, I understand sort of, it’s fine. He gets off the phone, comes into the bedroom, he looks heartbroken and he says his Dad is not coming for dinner. I asked why and what the situation is (I am internally really pissed off and trying not to let it unload!), turns out that his sister found out he was coming to visit and stay with us for Christmas and she threw a fit. So now he feels like he needs to stay there for Christmas.
More back story, the last few years his sister goes to her bfs house for Christmas and she has never seen her father for Christmas until a few days later when we come in and we go out for brunch with him, but it’s normally a few days after Christmas, so it’s pretty obvious why after 5 months of not even speaking to her father she makes a big ordeal over him coming up.
I am pissed because we really did a lot to accommodate him, but I am upset and hurt for my DH, and I know my DH is hurt too, he is going to be surrounded with wonderful people on Christmas which is great but this is a time when it would have been really nice to have his father around.
Oh well just my mini Monday vent.