(Closed) Sad for my FI

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
Member
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’m so sorry for him! I hope that he can get past this and focus on the greatness of the day and know that all that matters is that you are there with him, even if a life long friend can’t make it.

 

Post # 4
Member
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It sounds like you were already discussing uneven bridal parties with him having one more groomsmen.  Would you be OK if it ended up that you had the extra BM or two on your side?

I’ve been to weddings where it wasn’t perfectly even and it still looked beautiful.  Really, the only time it’s super noticeable is during the ceremony.  For pictures, you can mix up the bridal party instead of lining them all up together, so it doesn’t stand out as much.  At the reception, no one will notice!

Help him focus on the bright side that it’s probably better this way.  Friends grow apart sometimes, and on that awesome wedding day he’ll have his key friends and family there with him….and his beautiful bride, of course!

Post # 5
Member
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I think the only thing you can do is make sure he gives the other guys a call right away.  No more procrastination. 

Post # 6
Member
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

sometimes just saying to your guy "that really sucks." can make them feel better.  I think it must be really hurtful to him, and there isn’t really a great way to make it better – his friend has made it clear that he doesn’t value the friendship as much as your FI did. 

Hopefully he can ask the others soon and will get a much better response! 

Post # 7
Member
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

So, originally you were going to have 2 bridesmaids to his 3 groomsmen?  If it turns out that only one of his groomsmen choices is able to be in your wedding, how would you feel about the two of you simply have a MOH and BM?  In retrospect I wish my Fiance and I had done that as well.  We somehow ended up with 5 on each side….  UGH!

Post # 8
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I so empathise.  Although our situation was different, my FI also struggled to decide, and finally ask, his groomsmen.  While they all said yes, I was concerned about a similar situation to yours, because one of them just had a baby, and another is getting married 6 weeks before us.  I think boys don’t do as good of a job as girls of staying in regular touch. My FI had to really think about who he would ask, whereas I KNEW immediately who I wanted.  It’s hard to see him upset, but I think just supporting him is what’s best. Also, don’t push him to ask extra people just to "even out" the wedding party- he should ask whoever he wants, even if that’s 2 people, and you have 11 bridesmaids.  Give him an extra hug today too. 

The topic ‘Sad for my FI’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors