Post # 1
I don’t know why this week I’ve been feeling kind of sad. Maybe it’s all the pregnancy hormones, because I can’t really explain it, it just kind of happened.
Somehow I feel DH is not as happy as I am about this baby. The weird thing is that he was actually the one who wanted kids the most. I was ok with both options, if it happened or didn’t. And now that it has happened, I think about our baby all the time, I’m excited. My husband on the other hand, even though he says he’s happy, somehow I feel he’s not completely happy. Maybe I’m going crazy, but sometimes I think he tells me he’s happy just to please me and not worry me.
Sigh…I don’t know, but so far, I feel kind of lonely in this pregnancy. Has someone gone through the same thing (or something similar)? I could use some cheering up 🙁
Post # 3
@aguilpul: I have never been pregnant. However, I think what you are feeling right now is completely normal. I can tell you my mood swings with just my monthly hormones. Right now your body and hormones are going through some serious changes. Look to your hubby for support and of course the wb. Stay positive as best you can.
Post # 4
This sounds like pregnancy hormones all the way. You have to remind yourself that pregnancy for you is SO different than for dads. You can feel the changes from the very beginning, whereas all they know if how they effect you in interacting with him/situations. Idk when you’re due or how far along you are but I do know that dads start to get a little more “reactive” when they can see kicks and feel the baby move… the times they hear the heart beat, etc. It’s not because they’re not excited it’s just the way they’re wired… Pregancy hits us at the onset and really hits them when they have a baby in their arms. lol
Remind yourself of you husbands heart, and tell any thoughts that are contrary to that that you’re not going to even consider them as truth. Talk with you DH about it and just take this time fears & excitements to bring you two closer… not letting them isolate you
(((hugs))) and CONGRATS!!!!!!!!
Post # 5
Thanks girls! Yes, it’s probably the hormones, because I don’t feel like myself at all. To be honest, I’m scared of being alone with this baby. My mom practically had to raise me and my sister alone because my dad wasn’t really there, and I’m terrified of that happening to me too. I know it makes no sense, but I’m scared that the baby is going to separate my husband and me. Wow, that really makes no sense, these hormones are truly driving me crazy haha.
I will talk to DH about my fears and try not to isolate myself…I tend to do that when I’m scared 🙁 Oh and of course I’ll come to the WB all the time!
Post # 6
In the first trimester, I had multiple bouts of real loneliness and sadness. I think it was hormone-related, because it settled down quite a bit more in the second trimester. Unfortunately, it cam back again in a few episodes in the third trimester. Just do your best to remain calm and realize that some of these feelings are out of your control. It’s ok to cry, it’s ok to vent. You don’t want to keep those emotions bottled up, so let them out!
Reading your second post, I think your fears are totally valid. Having a baby absolutely will change your relationship with your husband and there’s times you’ll probably feel distant from him. But the good news is, you can take proactive steps now to prevent your relationship from suffering! You can take parenting/child preparation courses together, go to counseling to learn/strengthen your communication skills, and read books like And Baby Makes Three that can teach you skills to smooth the transition. I always say, it only gets harder after the baby gets here, so start working now to guarantee your relationship is in tip-top shape, and I bet a lot of your fears, worries, and sadness will subside a bit. 🙂
Post # 7
I think it’s harder for boys to be excited about the pregnancy b/c it’s not as real to them as it is to us. Maybe you can try to get your husband involved. I get a weekly email from babycenter that I always forward to my husband so we always have fun discussing what’s new with the baby and my body.
Although I do agree with the others, it’s probably just hormones.
Post # 8
I’m also very sad right now, which is made much worse by the fact that my SO is working out if provonce for four weeks at a time for the next several months. THe first few days he was gone I did nothing but cry. He said he’d come home and not go next month, but I have repeatedly reassured him that its magnified by my pregancy hormones.
Post # 9
I would say that it is totally normal. I sometimes feel the same way.
Post # 10
How far along are you?
I’m almost 29 weeks and it wasn’t until the last month or 2 when my husband started to seem excited.
When I told him I was pregnant he said to me “Wow! I wish we had more time”. Certainly not the reaction you see in the movies! haha!
He was just stressed about scared about the responsibility, the money etc…
We always wanted kids and we were trying…..but he was much more scared than excited for the first 5+ months.
I hear about husbands who are so thrilled and excited, my husband was much more reserved and fearful about how hard it would be.
I just wanted to say that his reaction may be a very normal one.