(Closed) Sad: Need help choosing new officiant…

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should we do?
    Wait for Doctor's decision : (9 votes)
    45 %
    Ask another friend to get ordained : (6 votes)
    30 %
    Get a random person/ someone recommended by a friend : (5 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

    wow.  Let me preface this by saying I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  My fiancé’s grandma is going to officiate our wedding, and I can’t imagine anyone else doing it!

    I think you should seriously start considering other close relatives/friends to officiate.  Just in case.  If things do take a turn for the worse, at least you won’t have to think about scrambling around for a new officiant..

    {{hug}} 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Oh no!  I’m so sorry!  Did they fly her to Denver or up to Montana? 

    As hard as it is, I voted for waiting to see what the doctor says.  You still have just over 4 months so I wouldn’t stress about your time frame too much yet.  I think she’ll be able to tell you sooner rather than later whether she’ll be recovered by then. 

    Sending lots of good wishes her way!

    Post # 8
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    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    What about asking someone else as a backup, letting them know the situation and that it would only be if she can’t make it? That way you still have the option of her doing it if she’s well enough. I’d think that a back up person would be understanding, especially if it was a friend.

    Post # 9
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    15 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would consider asking someone else. Although M might be better, it might be stressful for her to perform your wedding. Brain injuries take time. It might be a nice idea to have 2 people perform the ceremony, M and someone else. Share the duties and responsibilities. Help ease your mind and M’s. Just a suggestion. My prayers are with her.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    So glad to hear she’s doing better!  Keep us posted!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    It sounds like it would be wise to go ahead and find somebody else. If she is better in time for the wedding, perhaps you can honor her in another way. Better to go ahead and find someone whom you know will be available, and I am sure she would more than understand.

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