Post # 1
Four of my brother’s friends were killed on Friday in Isla Vista (Santa Barbara) Ca. Our mother informed me in an email.
We used to be close but we don’t have a good relationship now. He took my other siblings’ side when they pulled an emotionally abusive prank on me at our grandfather’s funeral over a year ago(he wasn’t part of it, but he left with them after they were done bullying me). We only texted once a month or so after that. He was on my phone plan and wasn’t paying his share, so last fall I signed up under my SO’s plan and informed my brother he would no longer be on my phone plan as I was terminating it. We haven’t communicated since then. Our mother included his new phone number in the email she sent.
I want to text him. I feel awful for what he is going through, he already lost a friend a few years ago in high school. I know he must be in so much pain now, and I’m worried about him.
What do I say to him in the text?
Post # 2
I’m so sorry this is happening! I would ignore all of the reasons you aren’t speaking in your text to him. The important thing is to let him know you’re thinking of him now and here for him if he needs you.
Post # 3
fluffysweet: if it were me I would try to put everything in the past (as you seen to be doing), and send him something heartfelt. What you wrote in your post would work! I would say something along the lines that I’m there for him and miss him. In the grand scheme if things, petty arguments and feuds are so trivial. Hopefully this gives you and your family a chance to reconnect 🙂 I wish you lots of luck!
Post # 4
I suggest you take the high road and text him.
“I heard about your friends being killed. You will miss them terribly. I am so sorry for your loss.
I love you.”
Post # 5
Omgosh, in the shooting? That is awful! I, as pp said, would text him and let him know you are thinking of him, and are there for him.
Post # 6
I think that this is one of those times you should put aside your differences and let him know that you are there for him. That is so sad!
Post # 7
Mintyfresh: I think this is the way to go.
GrumpytheDwarf: I don’t think what happened qualifies as a petty argument or fued, and I don’t really want to reconnect with my family.
AnonymousCupcake: Yeah. It is awful. I hope I word things right. I don’t want to say anything awkward and make him feel worse.
Post # 8
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fluffysweet: That is so awful! I am sorry for your loss, that is what you should say to him.