(Closed) Sad News Today

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: if you were me what would you do?
    go : (142 votes)
    96 %
    not go : (4 votes)
    3 %
    other : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would go.  …but I’m VERY close with both of my grandmothers and would have already left.

    Is there really going to be a hoard of people around her?  Honestly, who wouldn’t appreciate their granddaughter taking time out of their busy life to drive that far to see them?  I’m sure she’s not going to be like, “I’m too tired to see you.  You drove all this way for nothing, sorry.”

    Thoughts are with you and your family!  Big Hugs!

    Post # 5
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Sorry to hear about your Grandma.I agree with your dad,Definitly go and see her.

    Post # 6
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You are an adult and can make your own decisions. Your aunts have no right to boss you around and I think it’s awful they’re trying to.

    Post # 7
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, your aunts are probably overwhelmed and in their own way they probably think they’ll save you some heartache.  Also, your grandmother might have intimated to them that you shouldn’t visit because she doesn’t want you to travel so far (not because she doesn’t want to see you. 

    That being said…I think you should go. It’s terribly hard to be so far away from someone you love when they’re sick.  When my father had cancer the first time I wasn’t able to travel “home” very much.  The second time I drove 1,000 miles round trip every other week and it was worth it to spend the time with him before he passed and help my mother out.  

    Post # 9
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    As someone who has lost my grandfather I say go.  The only thing I regret in life is that I didn’t spend enough time with him in the end.  Go see her and show her how loved she is.  Right now she needs to know that her family is supporting her.

    Post # 10
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Ignore your aunts, sounds like they just want her time all to themselves.

    Post # 11
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Go! Forget about the aunts! You’re an adult obviously and will be able to tell if she is too tired and needs rest.

    Post # 12
    3059 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Is there a way to speak directly to her? Stage 4 lung cancer is a bad diagnosis, but it’s likely she will live for a while longer. Maybe wait until she starts chemo (if she does chemo) and go spend time with her while she’s at the infusion room. She may be completely overwhelmed and having a crowd around when she is dealing with this news can be overwhelming. 

    It is easy for me to say all that because she’s not my grandma, tho. Go if you really think you need to be there immediately. 

    Post # 13
    2188 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    Ignore your aunts they sound horrible for saying don’t see your grandma, especially when your grandfather and your father said they want you to see her! Don’t listen to them at all and get down to see her!

    Post # 14
    530 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

    I’m so sorry about your grandma, but go, even if they don’t let you see her (which I doubt) you would feel better if you at least try.

    And even if she’s tired, better see her for 10 minutes (and she knowing you’re there for her) than not see her at all.

    Post # 15
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @allieluvs21:  You should definitely go then and it will make her happy.  Your grandfather needs you right now too. 🙂 

    Look over your aunts right now.  They’re mostly likely in an emotional tailspin and a lot of what they say and/or do won’t make sense even to them. 

    Post # 16
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I will just say this… do what you feel is right. NOT what other family members think. I listened to what other people thought and my father passed of lung cancer before I had a chance to get there. You are the one who has to live with the regret… Don’t let a day pass… hug those you love while they are still here.

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