Sad that my wedding is so close?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8707 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was so fed up by my wedding. I just wanted it to be over and done so I didn’t have to deal with it anymore.

Post # 4
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8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Hyperventilate:  Yes, I feel the same way. I just want it to be over with. I’m sick of planning and everyone’s million questions and my bridesmaids are getting annoying. Ugh

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The feeling of not having to plan a wedding anymore is AMAZING. Our ceremony was (unexpectedly) very emotional and joyful – transformative even! Our reception was awesome and I danced the whole night with our friends. I’m glad I put the effort in to plan a great party. 

But OMG I LOVE having that chunk of my brain back to dedicate to non-wedding related things – like school/work, our house and planning trips! I’m SO excited about the next phase of our lives! We are just having fun, living life, without this big-deal thing looming ahead! I do think about the wedding everyday, particularly, our vows and the emotion expressed by our family and friends. And I look at the photos a few times a week and they make me smile. Almost a month since the wedding has passed and I can say for sure that I am riding a wave of post-wedding joy + freedom! 

@HVbride:  All this said, post-wedding blues is definitely something many people experience. Just try to savor these days leading up to the wedding and do everything you can to be present and  in the moment at your wedding so you can be sure you make wonderful memories!

ETA: Being married is seriously something to look forward to in a major, major way and I am willing to bet that the contentment sercurity, and warmth you feel in being married will exceed the happiness you’ve experienced in planning your wedding.

Post # 6
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497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe you should consider a career change into wedding planning? My friend’s sister had so much fun planning her upcoming wedding she is going to set up her own business when it’s done! 

 

PS. Best of luck for your wedding! Hope you have a great day! 

 

Post # 7
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11002 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

What you’re feeling is something many brides experience. However, you likely will find that you have other important things on which to focus after your wedding, and that will help you to transition from your concentrated wedding planning into the start of your new life with your DH.

Post # 8
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I felt like this as well. However, at moments I also just couldn’t wait for it to be done. I definitely have a lot more time now that the planning is done and the thank yous are out but I’ve found other stuff to keep me busy!

Post # 9
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Hyperventilate:  I’m a little bit of both – I’m enjoying the ‘wedding planning’ phase a bit but every time something is difficult to organise, I’m like “can this just HAPPEN already”. All I can think of is these two assignments that are due right after the wedding that I haven’t started yet.

Post # 11
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1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had the same feelings.  On one hand, I couldn’t wait to finally be a wife and not just a fiancee/girlfriend, but we planned our wedding in under 3 months.  I felt like I missed out on a lot of the DIY details that I wanted to do and everything was rushed.  I chose my dress in a day because I felt pressured into choosing one fast.  

I don’t regret getting married at all and if I had to do it again that way I would, but there are sometimes that I really wish I had had more time, even a couple more weeks, and been able to enjoy the “we’re planning our wedding!” stage. 

That being said, as soon as the wedding planning was done, that time filled up fast!  It’s so much fun setting up house to DH, getting to be together more without details hanging over your head and just being able to live life together. It’s awesome!

Post # 12
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ahhh yes once May was around the corner, life was hectic and stressful. Now that it’s over, I keep coming back to weddingbee and reading all the future brides posts. Sigh! Sort of miss it…..

Sort of.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@remijp:  This is so good to hear! I want to have this attitude after I get married and it is good to hear that it is possible. I want to stay focused on what’s really important the whole time too. Yayyyy!!!!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi Hvbirde

I got married just about half a year ago. Sometimes, I think it is just a dream every time realize the fact that I have been married for half a year. To be honest, I had the same feeling. I enjoyed the wedding planning. It was not only something about my wedding but also something interesting as a woman. Especially the DIY project, I found, was interesting. Well, I enjoyed making choice about dress, flowers, rings……

I agree with gingernutjo. Wedding planning, sounds great! You will happy every day if you change a career into wedding planning.Cool

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