Post # 1
This may sound silly…Im 25 years old, and will be 26 when I get married…I have never lived away from home.. never went away to college, never lived with my boyfriend… Just the thought of moving out of my house is KILLING me!! …I start crying as soon as I think about it…I dont know how I am going to do it when the time comes..Just the routine, my bedroom, my own bathroom, my dog…The funny part is that we bought a house, no joke, 2 minutes from my parents house!! I know this sounds childish especially at my age…I really do not know what my problem is! Anyone else have this problem??
Post # 3
It’s ok! It’s a huge change and a lot to get used to. I’ve lived on my own since I was 18, but I do remember crying when I moved into my college dorm room. Change is hard! You’re totally going to get used to it though. You’ll still be able to see your parents, your dog… especially since you live so close! After you get into a routine at your new house, you’ll forget about all of your anxiety about moving 🙂
Post # 4
I can’t say I do… I went away to college, came home my first summer and my parents and I almost killed each other and I never lived at home again haha.
It is understandable though, it is a big change! You’ll have to deal with not only the marriage thing and the cohabiting thing, but also the living without your parents thing for the first time! Hopefully your husband is patient with you, and you adapt quickly.
Post # 5
I think a lot of people have issues with leaving behind traditions or things that they love. Obviously you love your family house! I think the best way to wrangle this feeling is to start focusing on the positives of moving to the new house, instead of the negatives of moving from your current house. Moving can be exciting! It’ll end up feeling like home faster than you think.
Post # 6
oh geeze i totally relate! after college i moved back home for 2 years and then moved out when Fiance and I migrated to another state for his residency. My parents helped us move into our apartment and stayed for a week with me. The day they left i was crying and had a moment of panic like they were leaving me at college. (p.s. i was 25) I thought to myself “i can’t do this!!!!!!!! Please stay!!”
I still miss “home” and everytime we go visit, there is apart of me that misses “my room” and being around my parents. Waking up and my mom doing laundry, helping her make dinner at night..ya know those routine things i definitely miss! But after living together now for over 1.5 years, Fiance and I have made our little apartment our own home and its really nice. I still freak out being “grown up” now and again but there is also a sense of freedom that is nice too.
You’ll come into your own and don’t worry, you are not alone in feeling the way you do! and its ok 🙂
Post # 7
It’s a big change! It’ll take a little time to adjust (i’m going to back to when i was 18 and moved away to college–took me about 3 months to ‘get used’ to the idea that i didn’t need permission to do stuff or let anyone know when i would be back!) but it is SO liberating. Seriously, it’s awesome. It’s like “hi, yes, I”m an adult, woohoO!” =]
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I think it’s totally understandable. It’s interesting to me that in many other cultures, there are whole rituals or events on the wedding day devoted to honoring just this type of sorrow.
Post # 9
It’s a HUGE change! Don’t feel bad about feeling sad (that sounds like the worst self help book title of all time). You’ll be amazed at the amount of freedom you’ll feel once you get used to the idea! I haven’t lived at home in… 3-4 years, and it’s been a strange transition since I’m so close to my parents.
Post # 10
I think it’s totally understandable. I’ve been in and out of my parent’s house for the last 6 years, until finally moving in with Fiance last April. My parents drove me here (14 hours) with all of my stuff, stayed a couple of days, then went home. I cried for 2 days! I felt insane but I did get used to it pretty quickly 🙂 It’s a tough adjustment but you’ll be fine!
Post # 11
I can’t relate totally, but I think it’s important to focus on the good stuff — you’ll get to start with a fresh slate! You can create a new routine, one that includes the guy you love! Be ready for it to be hard though, especially at first, and definitely talk to your new husband about what you’re ‘used to’ – the first time I lived with someone (college) I was shocked to find that if I got up when I was used to getting up, she was in the shower. After a week or so of being late to class (or getting up early and making HER late for class) we talked about it and figured out a way to make it work for us both. But that communication is vital.
Post # 12
Ya know… I think there is also maybe an aspect of being sad about “growing up.” Like, leaving your parents’ home is admitting that that phase of your life is really over. Maybe its a little easier at 18 when most people are so in need of rebelling that they don’t think about it?
Sometimes I get a little sad that I’m not a kid anymore. Not for me, really, because I like being an adult, having money, getting married, having a house…. but a necessary side effect of me getting older is that my parents are older too and I HATE that! I still think of them as the “parent” generation, not the “grandparent” generation. I wish somehow we could grow up without making our parents get older too! heh
Post # 13
Changes can always be hard, while I can’t relate to your exact predicament, I am changing churches to the church of my Fiance. It makes me sad and happy. It’s a choice I made but it still feels like stepping into the unknown, just a little bit.
Not exactly the same but it’s still my little change. Every change can be hard, but you love your Fiance that’s why you’re getting married :o)
Post # 14
I felt the same way when I went away to college. That first year I was ALWAYS at my parents house. Then I gradually started being busy on the weekends and going less. My parents luckily only live about 20 minutes from where our house is and I go over or see them at least once every 2 weeks. But I talk to them on the phone at least 1-2 times/week. It took getting used to but you can do it!
Post # 15
I have lived away from home and even studied abroad for a year, but I still am having a hard time leaving. I just think we get comfortable to a certain lifestyle and are scared of the changes. While I am obviously going to move out, my one rule is that I need to live within 15 minutes from my mother (If I had the money to live in my neighborhood next door to my mother I would.)
I moved home after college to save money to buy a house so I guess it’s safe to say I’ve never lived on my own as a grown up. I will be in charge of all of the bills, cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping, etc. and that’s what scares me the most.