Post # 1
I’m usually pretty good with the waiting thing. Especially because I’ve been told I don’t have many more months to go. But after dating for nearly 4 and a half years! (and waiting not entirely patiently for the last two-) sometimes I just feel a little fed up. And I know he doesn’t have the ring yet.
But I’m feeling a bit low today. Everyday on facebook I’m seeing someone else’s wedding pictures. Yet another facebook friend announced their engagement today. At least she’s been with her FI for 3 years. It seems like a lot of the couples around me are getting engaged around the 1 to 1.5 year mark. Although I know it’s silly to feel left behind- many of my friends are still single. (I’m 25)
Not to mention the waiting list is shrinking! Not that that moves my number at all. At #98 it seems to go up a lot slower.
Anyway I just needed to rant in a direction that wasn’t my SO. Thanks for listening bees.
Post # 2
plum_pudding: do you know what he is waiting for?
how long has he been saying that you dont have too many more months to go?
You should be happy if you know it is coming 🙂 i am not saying it is easy because it makes you very anxious, but it shouldnt be a stressful or resentful time. The months before you get engaged should be some of the happiest in your life!
Post # 3
He has good reasons for waiting. His employment situation right now is at a non-profit with somewhat unpredictable hours. Also we’re currently living in cities about an hour apart. I know he has money set aside for my ring already – but he wants to feel like he’s more able to “provide” for me. I had suggested becoming engaged without a ring when we were both broke students 2 years ago- but he was having none of that.
He told me back in Februrary it’d be before the end of the summer. So I’m hoping he sticks to that. I am happy about it- but there are so many engagements lately (damn facebook)! More than I even heard about at Christmas time in real life. I’m just eager for it to be our turn already!
Post # 4
plum_pudding: aww well i can totally understand that. Just take comfort in it coming SOON! Hey – it is June tomorrow! 🙂
I know its tough, just try to distract yourself. Maybe join a class or yoga group for the summer. It will help take your mind off of things. Your time is coming – just tell yourself that when you see the engagement or wedding posts.
Post # 5
plum_pudding: We’re in the same boat. Wanna row together!? Least you’ve got 8 years on me…I’m 33. Everyday I tear a page off the calendar, I think I roll my eyes a little! So bad! We just have to focus. If these are the men we’re betting the farm on, they’re probably going to be worth it in the end despite the current frustration!