(Closed) Saga of the Aggressive Aunt Part Deux

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She’s obviously either off her rocker, or very jealous. I think you should try to find a way to not hear it anymore. IF she knows it upsets you, she will probably just do it more. Be above it!

Dont feed into her wackiness! You should be SO EXCITED about getting things done!

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Also, since she doesn’t like yoiur home, I guess she shouldn’t be invited anymore. And if she asks why, tell her the truth. You just don’t need the negativity.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My aunt and your aunt must be twins!  When I bought my home I was 28 years old and I bought it all on my own.  It needed updating but I knew that would come with time and money.  I remember the first year I had the house I had my family over for Christmas.  My aunt goes into the kitchen to turn on the faucet and says “this faucet is the worst I’ve ever seen.  Look you can’t even turn it on.”  I walked over lifted the handle and BAM Water!  Really?  

My aunt is someone who’s home I haven’t been allowed to walk past the front door in over 15 years.  She is a packrat and the house is falling apart around her.  She doesn’t invite anyone in.  

I think for my aunt and probably your’s too. is that they are so unhappy with their own lives that they have to make ugly comments about ours.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

and yes I agree she isn’t invited to your house any more.  I have one more family event I have to host at my home where she will be invited.  And when that is over (in 3 weeks) then that’s it.  No more.  I’ve told my mom this as well.  I have nothing left in a relationship with her.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@menobride  is right on all counts.  Don’t have people to your home who are so rude to you and your husband.  Her life is so miserable she is spreading it to others.

All your work on your home is to be appreciated and commended.  Anyone with any kind of knowledge of sense knows what it takes to renovate a home to the extent that you have.

Write her off and keep her away from your home.  She is not worth the grief she leaves behind.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

What a Negative Nancy! She could win 10 million dollars and complain it’s too much to count or be crowned winner of a pageant and accuse the judges of cheating.

I wouldn’t consider her opinions for a second. Afterall and like you said, she has no experience with renovating homes, therefore is not qualified to do so. As a matter of fact, because she isn’t qualified, if she says something is nice, I would go the opposite way.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just … wow.  At this point, I’d def not let her in the house anymore, but I’d also seriously ask yourself why you want this woman in your life.  For some people “because she’s blood” is reason enough, but for me that only goes so far, and she has worn out her supply of chances.  If she’s generally a great person who just has “foot in mouth” disease about other people’s homes then that’s one thing, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.  As far as I’m concerned, if she provides nothing but negativity and stress, then just gradually phase her out of your life.  If she wants to stew in her own bile, then that’s fine, but you shouldn’t have to be drug down too just because you share some DNA.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yep they are twins! My aunt has 2 grown children mid-20s to early 30s.  They have lived at home all this time.  The one got married and moved out last year, but the other is still there and doesn’t contribute to the household.  So frustrating!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow your Aunt sounds like a B*T#H. I wouldn’t invite her over anyone for the sake of your sanity and your marriage. Also when she asks why she can’t visit I would tell her the facts. She is rude to you, your husband and rude about your home. I would also tell her not to throw glass stones because you and your husband support yourselves and don’t rely on money from parents (like her kids) or complain about what they didn’t get when their parents died (seriously did she care about anything but the money?). She sounds very selfish and needs to grow up. I would totally tell her that too!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

What a horrendous, awful b#$%&. I would ocut off contact, frankly. The relationship doesn’t sound like it worth it AT ALL. I would lay it out and tell her that she is no longer welcome in your home because she is rude and negative. Tell her that she is 50 years old and needs to stop acting like a spoiled, selfish child.

I would be done. 3 strikes, you’re out.

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