SAHM!!!

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Be realistic about your return to work options should you need or want to at some point when the kids are older. Be realistic about the impact this may have on your financial stability not only in the next few years, but beyond into retirement. 

I have to say it – it will not be easy getting back into the game with a large gap in your resume so be ready and willing to stay involved while you’re a stay at home mom (volunteering, professional upgrading courses) and/or expect to spend extra time in your job search. You will at some point be passed up for positions in favour of people who have been in the workforce without a gap. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congrats on having the opportunity to stay home and go to school. Sound like a win to me. However turnanewleaf: makes fabulous points. 

But backlash from whom? And why? At the end of the day this is a decision between yourself and your mate. These people aren’t paying your bills or running your household. If they do bring up anything to you be sure to nip it in the bud immediately, so they don’t think they have carte blanche to comment on your personal affairs.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

There is absolutely nothing wrong with one of the parents staying home so don’t let anyone tell you any different. There is no point is working in a job you don’t like if most of your salary is going into childcare expenses.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

 

turnanewleaf: is spot on. I have never been a true SAHM but for the the first year and a half or so after my son was born, I worked PRN (as needed) with a minimal requirement of only like 10 hours a month. This was great for me. It allowed me to spend a lot of time with my son but also afforded me a periodic break from staying home and stimulated me mentally. Plus, when a great opportunity presented itself and I decided to go back to work full time to take advantage of it, I was able to say truthfully that there had been no gaps in my employment. My skills stayed current and I was up to date on what was going on in my industry.

So, for you that may not be the right choice but I would definitely do something to maintain your market value whether that be classes, volunteering, certifications, etc. being a SAHM mom is great and if that’s your lifelong career path that’s great, too. But just like any other career, you have to be mindful of the what ifs. So at the very least, keep yourself current shoud you ever need to go back to work.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

eecuadrado: Just make sure your hubby is on the same page and together come up with a consise but respectful butt out LOL. Especially if its his Mom, let him handle. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

eecuadrado:  what a wonderful opportunity, not only for you and your DH but mostly for the benefit of your DS! I am an Early Childhood educator and though I advocate the enriching environment that a good quality daycare provides, there is nothing like having a parent stay at home to care for their child if the circumstances allow. turnanewleaf made some excellent points about returning to the workforce, definitely find time for volunteer work and school and even part-time work as your DS gets older.

In terms of the day-to-day with your DS, enjoy this precious time with him, they remember no matter how little they are. Enroll in some mummy & me classes so that he gets to socialize with other adults and children in his age group. Community centers, libraries, etc usually have great drop-in programs.

In terms of your MIL, let the comments roll off your back and keep smiling:) And it’s so true, better to keep your mouth shut and let DH deal with it. I’ve started doing this now, still hard though as I’m way too opinionated! At least MIL lives a good 10hr plane ride away from us.

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t need to defend your choice to anyone except those who pay your bills. It’s not their business and I wouldn’t entertain discussion about it.  You make the choices that are best for your family, period.  If anyone made comments, I would tell them that it was the best choice for your family and leave it at that.

Post # 15
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

eecuadrado:  ouch! two MILs and so close…..power to you girl, to keep your cool! Fingers crossed that SAH comes through soon!

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