Post # 1
I am getting married in about 17 days. Last Saturday, a future in-law asked about salon time for the party and could she be included. So, I hadn’t really thought of this before, and although I have booked a personal appointment for that morning and one for my bridesmaid, I hadn’t really conisdered booking for mothers. She requested a specific brand of salon and listed services that she wanted done. It was significantly more than even I am having done professionally. Can someone tell me how salon time works and who is responsible for the bill. Am I required to book and finance everyone’s appointments?
Post # 3
I don’t think you should pay for it. She should pay herself! The only time you are required to pay for someone is if you are requiring your BMs to have their hair or makeup done a certain way.
Post # 4
If you aren’t ASKING her to get it done and she is making that choice for herself then, in my opinion, you have zero responsibility here at all. Sure, it’s nice if you help her make the appointment, but really I think you are fine telling her that you have made your own arrangements and she should do the same.
If you are requiring that people have their hair and make up done though, you should make the arrangements and pay for it.
Post # 5
I agree she should be footing the bill especially if she wants a ton of extra stuff done!
Post # 6
I gave my BMs the option of getting their hair and/or makeup done at the salon I go to. I let them know the cost of each service and I booked all the appointments. My salon does snacks and mimosas for bridal parties, super fun. Each girl is going to pay for whatever they want done but they all knew ahead of time and some are opting out all together with is totally fine too.
Post # 7
I am paying for my BP’s salon time, but that is because I booked it and told them that it would be part of their gift. However, I am only paying for their hair; any make up or nails that they want done will be their money.
Post # 8
You definitely aren’t required to foot the bill or, for that matter, obligated to have her join in. If you are fine with her being there – I’d tell her what hours you will be there and have her book her own appointment.
Post # 9
She should pay for herself (and she should know this!)
Post # 10
She should pay for herself and even book for herself too! did she make any comments that sounded like she is assuming that you would pay?
Post # 11
Let her pay for herself! If she is getting a ton of stuff done why should you have to pay?
Post # 12
Let her book and pay for herself…may be a good idea to tell her that in advance.
Post # 13
My FMIL is also getting her hair and make-up done with us the day of and mani/pedi the day before but SHE is paying for hers. I don’t think you should have to pay unless that is your gift to her.
Post # 14
Maybe she was asking you about being included because in the case of larger bridal parties at smaller salons they will sometimes have the whole thing to themselves (she would still need to pay for her own services – but she wouldn’t be able to book an individual appointment if you had the salon reserved).
If you only have one bridesmaid, I’d just tell her where you two are going and when and let her book her own. You do NOT need to pay for her services – nor should she expect you to.
Post # 15
Ok, I think I may have misunderstood. Thanks for the help. Carmie is right, maybe they assumed it was a reserved block. I am going to make an itenerary for family that will go out this Friday. I will include salon contact information so that anyone who wants to can book individual appointments. I am not sure if it was assumed that I was responsible for the bill if I booked the appointments. Having them book themselves, I would think is the easiest way to slip out of that one and simultaneously let everyone know it isn’t exclusive.