Same Amount Of Bridesmaids As Groomsmen?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@michonne:  I think it looks the best, but it’s definitely not essential. Unless the numbers are vastly uneven, I doubt anybody will even take note.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@michonne:  For pictures it looks nicer just because it keeps the couple in the center. It is not necessary but is traditional and nice if you can make it work out that way. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I like the “even” look, but I don’t think it is necessary to for every bridal party to be even.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had 3 bridesmaids and DH had 2 groomsmen. We never thought twice about it. We chose who we genuinely wanted to have stand up with us rather than worry about choosing/cutting people based on numbers. Nobody mentioned it and it wasn’t an issue at all.

 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My husband and I do not have the same number on each side and we also have both men and women on each side because we each chose who represents those closest to us without regard for matching.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Rock those odd numbers!  In 20 years when you look at your wedding photos, you will be happy to see WHO is standing beside you, not if your sides were even.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

All personal preference! I prefer even numbers but I’ve seen many pics of uneven and it still looks fine.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Here’s the thing: FI has been asked to be in 3 separate weddings purely to even out the numbers for pictures. He was irritated that old HS friends who rarely spoke to him would call him and ask him to be in the wedding when they never even met the bride. He knew very well he was there only to balance out pictures. Therefore our numbers are grossly unbalanced lol but we wanted to pick who we wanted to pick. It’s a big responsibility to be in someone’s wedding, you should only ask those you’re serious about!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You can have whoever you want in your bridal party!

I want the people closest to us to be in the bridal party.  So I’ll have twice as many bridesmaids than FI has groomsmen- it just makes sense to us.  I have 5 times as many friends than he does and he has a couple close friends.  And in terms of family, we both only have sisters, and I want all the sisters and FSIL to be in the bridal party.  Each guy will be walking out 2 ladies in the recessional and I am pretty sure there will be no complaints about that.

I went to a wedding where the bride was closer to guy friends than girl friends and many brothers on both sides.  So both the bride and groom only had male attendants! 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@michonne:  Not essential!  I’m having no attendants; my FI is leaning toward having a best man and a groomsman (his brother and his best friend).  I may ask my brother to walk me down the aisle (my dad passed away) but other than that, just me.  I’ve seen all sorts of configurations over the years and whatever makes you happy is what you should do!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think it’s way more important to have the people you each want up there, rather than inviting people just to make it even. I’ve been so weddings where it’s not even and I didn’t even think twice! Plus, your photorapher probably has lots of creative ways to get around the whole”even in pictures” thing.

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My numbers were unbalanced – I had two and DH had three.  One of the people I had standing up for me was a guy.  I didn’t care – I wanted the important people with me and it would have felt wrong to ask someone just to make the numbers even, or ask female friends I wasn’t particularly close to in order to make the pictures uniform.

Do what you want to do.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had 6 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. The pictures look great, and our friend Brent looked like a stud with 2 girls on his arms. it’s about friendships, not numbers.

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