Post # 1
I saw a post on here a bit down from a gal who cried when brides on another site were terribly mean to her when she asked about having a “big wedding” after doing the JOP courthouse thing. I actually came to a girl’s defense on one of those boards for asking the same question and got torn apart by the other ladies. One basically told me that I’m starting my marriage with a lie and I’m a gold digger because my fiance wants to be sure I’m taken care of if something happens (because obviously we marry into the military for the outrageous amounts of money and comfort it brings, right?…).
Anywho, anyone else have a story of mean internet brides??
Post # 3
I did have a nasty reaction on another site which will remain un-named for the time being but I have found that most people on this site seem to be fairly down to earth and though they voice thier opinions (some louder than others) I have not had anyone on this site be flat out rude to me… thankfully.
I am also having a larger ceremony after we did a JOP wedding a few months ago. I don’t feel that it is a lie or anything like that, becuase our family knows about it all ready. we are keeping it small and light and fun. No one was able to join us for the JOP wedding or we would have had our famlies here, they will however be able to join us for the ceremony and most of them when we told them were completely fine with it and understood. they might not have LOVED the idea, but they were okay with it.
(because obviously we marry into the military for the outrageous amounts of money and comfort it brings, right?…). <— that made me laugh!
Post # 4
LOL!!!! it does boost their pay but they are still way under payed.
Post # 5
A few years ago when we got engaged I was on the Knot (which is really slow and boring now) and got torn apart because I wasn’t born knowing invitation etiquette and had no clue who Crane and Co. was/is…whatever.
Seriously though…Internet brides have nothing on Baby Center Community and pregnant chicks….that’s where I got my big girl panties while pregnant with my daughter. After that I learned a little… Sticks and stones….
Post # 6
Yeah, internet Brides can be mega bitches. Like 99% of the Bee is phenomenal though. Everyone on here is really really nice.
Post # 7
I agree that this site is great. I haven’t been on here in months because I’ve been busy living it up as a newlywed :), but it was such an amazing, supportive place for me while I was planning my wedding. I love the Bee!
Post # 8
I feel like I have seen alot of it (more on another site) but I think there are just a couple people on each board who post so often they think they know everything. Talk about an unneccessary source of wedding drama!
Post # 9
@globalmargaret: (because obviously we marry into the military for the outrageous amounts of money and comfort it brings, right?…).
No stories, but that seriously made me chuckle. Darling Husband is military.
Post # 10
I haven’t really had many issues here, but pregnancy/mothering sites….whew. You’ll get torn apart there. Torn. Apart. Somebody on one of the sites actually commented on my daughter’s name and another woman’s daughter’s name on some site that basically talks trash about parents. Was I furious? Of course. Did I get on the other site to “defend my choice in name”? No way! I’m not giving them the fuel for their fire. I’m happy with her name, and real life people mean way more to me than people online.
You learn to just move on. Laugh at them for their insecurities. Seriously.
Post # 11
sorry OP but you made me laugh. my friend is married to a US marine and if shes a gold digger then shes wondering where the money is because you dont get rich marrying a serviceman
Post # 12
Yes, people are judgemental at times, mysel included but nobody is perfect. After Darling Husband and I were talking about convalidation in the church before talking to my chaplain I posted on a catholic forum and was ripped to shreds. These people werent mean internet brides–just mean internet people.
Post # 13
@amactobe: omg! I just have to say (bc I know this thread is older…) that this EXACT thing just happened to me! A girl was in the same position, and I came to her defense only to be attacked by people who basically don’t know anything, but think they’re the authority on all-things-wedding. girls can be so mean!
Post # 14
Unfortunately many people address things in life as, “My way is the right way,” and not, “It’s not my way, but it’s still okay.” Weddings come in all sizes and styles.
My sister almost did the JOP thing with her now husband. He’s in the airforce, and planning a wedding between training and their first assignment is extremely difficult. They had to move it back several times, because his leave was postponed twice. So, none of us would have batted an eye at doing the JOP and then a larger wedding thing. We all wanted to celebrate with her & her hubby, how/when they got married was a non-issue for us.
Post # 15
Whenever someone responds negatively to something I’ve said that they don’t like, I don’t bother replying. I don’t need to get into an argument with people online who I don’t even know, and I don’t need to defend myself.
Post # 16
@orchidaloha: I do the same; I just don’t return to the thread.
I feel so bad for brides who are treated inappropriately for something so simple as JOP wedding. In the old days it was common place to have a civil wedding loooong before the church wedding. It’s only the last 100 years that our culture has started doing it the same day. I really feel bad though, because my husband and I got married in between deployments due to our “big wedding” date having to change 5 times. We decided we would still have the big wedding a year later, and we’ve been honest with everyone from the get go. I’ve already changed my name and all that. I still feel guilty sometimes for having a wedding celebration, all the money spent, gifts and all that, but I just want to enjoy having all of my family and friends in one place at one time and have a party.