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Both of our sisters are Pregnant. HELP. Do I change the wedding date?

Same hotel as the in-laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family

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runskiclimb June 26, 2010 Michigan

A little background: The wedding is in my hometown, but FI and I live in a different state. We are getting a hotel room for the night of the wedding, since I think it would be weird to spend our first night as a married couple at my parent's house. We have a ton of OOT guests (~150) so we booked room blocks for guests at 4 different hotels.

FI's parents are also from out of state and will be staying at a hotel as well. One of the four hotel choices, Hotel A, has suites, so FI and I were originally planning to stay there because it seemed ideal if we wanted to spend time with a few close friends afterward. Hotel A was also ideal for FI's parents, as they have a lot of family coming in and they really liked the idea of suites. I did not like the idea of staying in the same place as FI's parents, plus we realized Hotel B had a ton of other better things going for it, so we decided to stay in Hotel B instead.

But now FI's parents want to stay in Hotel B too! And Hotel B doesn't even have the suites that they were previously so insistent on! FI really wants his sister to stay at the same hotel as us; his sister really wants their parents to stay at the same hotel as her. So now, because of FI's sister, I will be staying at the same hotel as my brand new in-laws! If we want to stay with parents, why not stay at my parent's house for free? And I know there is no rational reason for this to bother me, but it does.

Am I crazy for letting this bother me? Is there anything I can do about it?

2 years ago

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artbee February 28, 2010

they aren't going to be in your room. i wouldn't worry about it.

2 years ago

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caszos June 2010 Florida

Can you maybe request to be on a different floor or something? When are you leaving for your honeymoon, the sunday following your wedding?

Chances are after the wedding you will crash in your room. Whenever you get up the next day you are going to be busy saying goodbye to all the OOT guests so privacy won't really matter at that point. Then I assume you will be leaving for your honeymoon.

2 years ago

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Lovespearls June 13, 2010 New York & DC & Austin

Yea I wouldnt let it bother you. On your wedding night they better know enough to back off or else you have big problems!!

2 years ago

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pendola

Do you normally get along with them?

Are they the type that will come knock on your door and intrude?

We were thinking about staying at the hotel where our guests were but I wasn't too keen on the idea of *having fun* next door to family or one of our guests so we went home!! It was for the best (but not because of the *fun* factor).

Is there a B&B in the town you could do instead?

2 years ago

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amac25 03/20/2010 Chattanooga, TN

Request a different floor! And be happy that they used one of your blocked hotels. Mine are staying at a hotel that they got a deal at instead of one of the blocks. Not the biggest deal but just slightly irritating.

2 years ago

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jaylii9 September 5, 2010

I think staying at the same hotel as your in laws on your wedding night should be fine, but I would keep your whereabouts relatively unknown! I went to a wedding where drunk groomsmen were banging on the bridal couple's room door at 2am after the wedding as a supposed joke...uh no thank you!

2 years ago

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vintage2010 April 10, 2010

I wouldn't worry about it. Where we are having the wedding at there is only 50 rooms and all guests and us are staying there. I'm not concerned about it because the reception won't end until 11:30 and by the time we say our good byes and such the night is gone and over with. We plan to get up early the next day to drive home to pack and catch a flight for the honeymoon.

2 years ago

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GirlWithARing September 5, 2010 Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

If they have an ounce of tactfulness in them they will leave you alone on your wedding night. This just seems like very basic etiquette to me. However, I could definitely see some in-laws I know "popping over to say hi". So if they're crazy intrusive (as in, you can think of several occasions where they've barged in on you and FI or otherwise invaded your privacy), I would stay in a different hotel. Explain your concerns to FI's sister and let her make the choice of who she wants to stay with. However, in most other cases, I don't think it should be a problem at all to stay in the same hotel.

2 years ago