Post # 1
My sister got married last year, and I’m getting married next year (They’ll be two years apart). A large number of guests that attended my sisters wedding will be at mine. I’m worried that if we have the same reception venue, it will be too similar. The reception venues in our relatively small town are limited, especially because of the size of the guest list (250 people.) In my opinion, the venue is the best choice… its inexpensive, relatively nice, and fits our large group. Should I do the same one, and risk a copy cat wedding? Or should I find something different, but not quite as good?
Post # 3
If you like it, book it. It won’t be a copycat wedding just because the reception is in the same place.
Post # 4
I think it’s kind of sweet that you and your sister will have married in the same venue. Go or it, especially since it is clearly h better space, most affordable, etc.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about being a copycat. You’ll add your own personal touches that will make it your’s.
Post # 6
I’d ask your sister, mainly as a courtesy because some people can be SUPER sensitive about this sort of thing.
That being said though, you can make the same venue look completely different with lighting, different colours, linens, etc so I reallly wouln’t worry 🙂
Post # 7
Im almost 90% sure my sister will get the same venue as me…and about 99% of my family has had their wedding there as well. No copycat weddings and no one really cared. A good venue is a good venue.
Post # 8
Fiance and I are having the ceremony at the same church his sister and brother had theirs at, and reception at the same venue as the other 2 as well. It’s a tiny little farm town with few options, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be any less special, or that others will think it’s copy cat, in fact I think it adds a sentimental value to the wedding!
Post # 9
So long as your sister doesn’t mind – I’d go for it. It gives you the assurance that you know what to expect from the place. I feel like I’m going totally blind with how things are going to wind up at my venue.
Post # 10
I kind of had the same problem. A lot of our friends are getting married this year and we didn’t want to choose the same venue as any of them. It was tricky because we all wanted the same kind of venue (lofty/urban/inexpensive) but luckily it has all worked out for us since we live in a larger city.
I think since you don’t have that many options, it would be fine to choose the same venue as your sister. I agree as the posters above, just ask her first to make sure she’s ok with that and then decorate it so it’s your own 🙂
Post # 11
Go for the venue you know you like.
I’m stuck trying to find
a) not the venue Fiance was married at before
b) not the venue Fiance was supposed to get married to his intended second wife before me, but that engagement fell apart.
Both these venues are perfect for what I want though and I’m sucking it up if I have to. This week is one last push to find something else and if not it’s a or b.
I’ll just have to make it my own, and you can do it too!
Post # 12
And I forgot to mention My Dad and his Fiance are getting married 6 days before me at another lovely venue in town that would work. That one I just can’t do, too close in time!!
Post # 13
I’m having my reception in the same venue as my sister – different ceremony site. Most of the people from my parents’ guest list went to her wedding in 2009, but it’s not like it’s a local bar where we all go every night and people are tired of it. Jazz it up and make it your own! Some people will probably remember it fondly from your sister’s wedding and will look forward to going there for yours.
Post # 14
I think it’s okay if your sister thinks it’s okay – and two years apart – most won’t remember every detail.
You should strive to make your event different in style, colors, theme and perhaps have the venue set up the tables differently, i.e. instead of round tables, use rectangle tables. Instead of a sit-down, do a buffet. Or do a passed plate whereby each table gets the food on platters and passes them around. This makes for conversation and much enjoyment.
Perhaps your sister had a traditional setting. Why don’t you do a modern setting or a “green” setting with natural elements. You can always opt for lighting to make the room a different color. For traditional, use amber; for modern, use blue or pink. If you have a dj, let him put up so disco lights for a change during dancing and they can go on and off which is quite fun. Instead of a traditional wedding cake, get a smaller cake that you can cut into for photos and serve smaller individual cakes for each tables or use cupcakes, cookies. You can have a dessert table using all kinds of candy in different jars along with mini pastries and danish. Use feathers instead of flowers or use lots of candles with a minimum amount of flowers. Just use your imagination and do search for “inspiration boards for weddings” on line. Here are some suggestions to allow you to go a little different without spending a lot of loot. Do note the lighting. Good luck and enjoy!!!
Post # 15
I think it will be ok, just put as much of yourself and fi of course lol, into the decor and planning. Your different people so your wedding will be different as well. If it’s just the reception that’s the same put extra attention on the ceremony space. That will also set your wedding apart.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Subie: Where in Wyoming are you getting married?? We’re doing our up Sinks Canyon outside of Lander 🙂 I was so excited to see the word “Wyoming” on this website! Not many of us.