Post # 1
I’m a long time weddingbee stalker, this is my first post, but I just had a minor heart attack this morning. So I live in a smaller city that isn’t near any other towns so we all know eachother. Well someone I know who is a year younger than me just got married last night at the same place I’m going to get married in town. I didn’t attend because we only got invited to the reception as they had a small ceremony and I had to work this morning. Well at work I went on facebook and discovered that she is wearing the EXACT hairstyle I have picked out AND DRESS I just bought in Janruary!!!!! Plus they got married at the same venue!!!! So now I don’t know what to do…should I talk to my bridal shop and look for a different dress?! I was having some dress regret but I thought that was perfectly normal and now I’m not so sure I want to give it up! Ugh what do I DO!?
Post # 3
Well, how much does your guest list over lap? Honestly, the only person who will notice is you and the other bride. No one else is going to have a CLUE what the brides dress looked like or her hairstyle was next week, let alone in July. And I am going to take a leap that this girl isn’t your twin or clone so even the same hair style and dress will look different on her than it will on you. Personally? I say just move on. Unless you bought a handmade, one of a kind dress, lots of people have it, and lots of people will have the same or similar hair to you. It isn’t a big deal because you will be the only one wearing them at your wedding.
Post # 4
Maybe you can bring up how ironic it is that you both have the same venue and dress. That way she knows you weren’t a copy cat, if this is what your scared of?
There are so many hairstyles out there, I’m sure you can come up with another favorite.
We as brides tend to look at the whole picture, most guests do not. The majority of them will not know that you both wore the same gown. I would just wear it and save the hassle of getting a new one, I highly doubt the bridal shop will let you pick a different dress. Is there something you can add or change on the dress to make it a bit different?
Post # 5
Ohhhh not good…. yikes!
Hope you can change things so it won’t cost you much!
Post # 6
If you’re already having dress regret, it wouldn’t hurt to see if you can switch your dress, but I really don’t think it’s a big deal. As PP said, most people won’t remember what the dress looks like anyway.
Post # 7
I agree with the PP…I don’t think alot of ppl are relly going to notice! On the other hand, if it really bugs you & you think it will still make you feel this way up until your big day..then it doesn’t hurt to maybe look at some more dresses! I know that I wouldn’t want to feel any other way than happy & excited on my big day. So if you think it will effect your mood…then shop around some more! Sry you are in this situation..hope you can find a resolution & be happy on your big day! 🙂
Post # 8
Well see that’s the thing, our guest lists overlap A LOT! In fact a couple people that are in the wedding are also in ours….
Post # 9
@bridetobe71412: As PP’s have said, your guests probably won’t pick up on the similarities, but I’d change what I could in terms of decor, hairstyle and accessories to separate from the other wedding all the more. Living in a small town, I wouldn’t worry so much about the same venue and dress; the same venue was definitely bound to happen, and if there’s the one or two bridal shops in town, odds are again that you’d find the same dress. There are a zillion variations on decor, hairstyles and accessories, so options are much more available to you there. Hopefully, the girl that married a year ago will understand this if you invite her and she attends your wedding.