Sanity Survival Tips for the Waiting

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@southsun:  

I so wanted to be married very quickly after meeting my now-husband.

I remember hoping he would propose to me the first Christmas we spent together. The gifts he gave me in the meantime didn’t exactly thrill me. All I kept thinking was, “For the money this man spent on these gfts, he could have gotten me a ring!”

What did save me from going over the edge was knowing that he told me early on I was the one he wanted to marry. And he is the type of guy that is always reliable. So I held onto those special memory moments.

I moved 500 miles to live with him, so a proposal was absolutely necessary for my sanity to remain intact.

The proposal came the next Christmas. But that waiting and not knowing period is one of the hardest parts of being a woman, if you ask me.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

no advice here- commenting to follow

Post # 5
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Worker bee

@southsun:  I know how you feel. I’m also in the ‘Waiting’ period in my relationship! My obsession with the proposal has come and gone in waves. I’ve been really busy lately, which keeps my mind occupied. But that doesn’t mean I don’t think about it before I go to bed!! 

Let’s see…I think the 1 thing that’s really keeping me sane is that my SO and I talked about a general timeline. I know it’s not going to happen anytime soon, and that little tidbit has actually kept me pretty sane. Otherwise, I’d be at the edge of my seat every time we went out to a dinner or did something our of the ordinary! But, this might be a bit of a “spoiler” and some might want the proposal to be a complete surprised. However, for me, I needed a timeline!!

Otherwise, youtube proposal videos keep me fairly satisfied for the short-term, lol! I watch them, I tear up, and I move on with my day. Maybe that will work for you too! Waiting is the worst…but when it happens, it’ll be so worth the wait!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@orangeuexcited:  Thats a good idea! I need to try the videos. I’ve watched some and then I just plan my perfect proposal in my head and tell my SO my ideas. He always says “that would be really cool. I really like that idea, but now I can’t use it”….I need to shut the hell up lol

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I dont know if this would be much help but I recently had an occasion like this and even though I knew it wouldn’t be then the 2% kept trying to tell me it would! 

I asked myself how would I feel about my relationship, the occasion and my life if being engaged didn’t exist and the answer was I was a lucky duck with a wonderful man who loved me and who I was celebrating with and reminded myself of people who would kill to be in my position. And I managed to enjoy the hell out of our trip, no disappointment, no tears, no meltdown! 

we are SO lucky, the ring is just the cherry on top 🙂 happy anniversary xx

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I feel like taking care of myself is the best distraction for me.  Exercising, meal planning to eat healthier, taking the time to do my hair and makeup… Those things tend to keep me busier, feeling better, and feeling more confident.  I also figure, it can’t help to look better and feel better when the proposal does come!  

I also tend to clean and immerse myself in work to distract myself, but those things are not fun, so they wouldn’t be my top recommendations.  

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