Post # 1
Please. Post them.
I’m less than a week away from our anniversary. I KNOW there will be no proposal. However there is a tiny 2% of my brain that comes up with excuses for why he might be trying to ‘throw me off’. I need to beat up that two percent, duct tape it and shove it in a dark closet. Otherwise I will be terrible when I should just enjoy a lovely romantic occasion with no expectations.
So post your survival tips! How did you forget about a proposal during what ‘should’ be the perfect proposal moment/time/event?
Post # 3
I so wanted to be married very quickly after meeting my now-husband.
I remember hoping he would propose to me the first Christmas we spent together. The gifts he gave me in the meantime didn’t exactly thrill me. All I kept thinking was, “For the money this man spent on these gfts, he could have gotten me a ring!”
What did save me from going over the edge was knowing that he told me early on I was the one he wanted to marry. And he is the type of guy that is always reliable. So I held onto those special memory moments.
I moved 500 miles to live with him, so a proposal was absolutely necessary for my sanity to remain intact.
The proposal came the next Christmas. But that waiting and not knowing period is one of the hardest parts of being a woman, if you ask me.
Post # 4
no advice here- commenting to follow
Post # 5
@southsun: I know how you feel. I’m also in the ‘Waiting’ period in my relationship! My obsession with the proposal has come and gone in waves. I’ve been really busy lately, which keeps my mind occupied. But that doesn’t mean I don’t think about it before I go to bed!!
Let’s see…I think the 1 thing that’s really keeping me sane is that my SO and I talked about a general timeline. I know it’s not going to happen anytime soon, and that little tidbit has actually kept me pretty sane. Otherwise, I’d be at the edge of my seat every time we went out to a dinner or did something our of the ordinary! But, this might be a bit of a “spoiler” and some might want the proposal to be a complete surprised. However, for me, I needed a timeline!!
Otherwise, youtube proposal videos keep me fairly satisfied for the short-term, lol! I watch them, I tear up, and I move on with my day. Maybe that will work for you too! Waiting is the worst…but when it happens, it’ll be so worth the wait!!!
Post # 6
@orangeuexcited: Thats a good idea! I need to try the videos. I’ve watched some and then I just plan my perfect proposal in my head and tell my SO my ideas. He always says “that would be really cool. I really like that idea, but now I can’t use it”….I need to shut the hell up lol
Post # 7
I dont know if this would be much help but I recently had an occasion like this and even though I knew it wouldn’t be then the 2% kept trying to tell me it would!
I asked myself how would I feel about my relationship, the occasion and my life if being engaged didn’t exist and the answer was I was a lucky duck with a wonderful man who loved me and who I was celebrating with and reminded myself of people who would kill to be in my position. And I managed to enjoy the hell out of our trip, no disappointment, no tears, no meltdown!
we are SO lucky, the ring is just the cherry on top 🙂 happy anniversary xx
Post # 8
First off, thank you everyone for the comments and advice! I really appreciate all the input!
@Bunny_the_Bride: Yes sometimes I feel like belting out ‘”The waaaaaaaiiiiiiting is the hardest part.’ And omgsh, yes! He’s talking about how much money he is spending on my present and our plans and how he bought a new Xbox too so February’s bill will be so high. I am so proud of myself for not saying ‘Well you know that free hierloom ring your parents gave you sure would cut costs!’ Lol.
@orangeuexcited: I have no timeline, except just not now, but not too far away. Every time I try to get an exact one, he changes his mind later. He insists it isn’t ‘doing it the right way’ if I expect it. He’s fairly non-traditional. So the fact he is unyieldingly traditional over this is annoying lol. Especially as he knows that i hate surprises. I tried watching proposal videos, but they had the reverse effect for me. O.o that’s a good idea though!
@Brownbear23: Thank you! Yes, three years now. Longer, more stable, more healthy and more happy than any other relationship. Yes, pesky 2% trying to take over my brain! That’s a really great perspective you have! I’m for sure going to start integrating that now. I do have a lot to be thankful in my relationship.
Post # 9
I feel like taking care of myself is the best distraction for me. Exercising, meal planning to eat healthier, taking the time to do my hair and makeup… Those things tend to keep me busier, feeling better, and feeling more confident. I also figure, it can’t help to look better and feel better when the proposal does come!
I also tend to clean and immerse myself in work to distract myself, but those things are not fun, so they wouldn’t be my top recommendations.
Post # 10
@Oooh_snap: Yeah I’m currently working on better managing my health. I’m not terrible, but I have been slacking through the holidays. I clean too!!!! Mainly because it’s calming if I’m upset, mindless labor sooths me for some reason. O.o
To all the other bees participating, I just thought I’d share a cool little revelation from today!
I took my first solo road trip in a while to visit my sister. I just bought a new(to me) car. Well the CD player holds multiple CD’s and sits in the trunk, so you have to pre-load it. I put in some fun mix CD’s(Yes I’m the last person alive who still makes and listens to mix CD’s) that I made last summer. Or so I thought. Turns out they were old CD’S from three years ago with similar labels to the ones I was looking for.
For the whole road trip I listened to the music that I did right before I met SO when I was single, then the music we met and fell in love to. It was absolutely therapeutic! It made me remember all the great times of being single along with my best friend(who’s getting married soon! Yay!), all I recovered from a dark time in my life before that, and then the amazing process of falling in love. All the funny, sexy, silly and thrilling memories of when the two of us were just becoming ‘us’. It made me really appreciate my SO all over again simply for who he was and is. I was looking at him and us as a whole rather than just us at this one moment in time. It felt magical. :]
So for other bees looking for sanity, maybe a musical trip down memory lane could help! Maybe not, just thought I would share though. 😀