Post # 1
Two weeks ago my Fiance asked me to marry him. He asked if I wanted to pick out my E-Ring. I told him I would. I happened on another Bee’s E-Ring and fell in love. She was kind enough to tell me where she purchased it. My Fiance purchased one for me. It is a sapphire Claddagh ring. We ordered it and it is being made in Ireland for me and will be here by the end of November.
Well, we showed a photo of it to my all too soon to be mother-in-law who is so snooty that I’m not sure God would meet with her approval. She said “that is not an engagement ring, it’s too small. Ben, you have good job you better get her something better. Won’t you be embarrassed of her walking around with that ring?” Well, you should know, I have very small hands. A 1.5 ct. diamond on me looks on the edge of fake. Besides, I chose the sapphire ring and I love it. Anyway, the old bag wouldn’t let up about how inappropriate the ring is. The next thing I know he presents me with a new sapphire ring yesterday. As you can see, it is lovely. It is a blue sapphire with exquisite color and saturation with two princess cut diamonds on the side all set in platinum. It looks beautiful on, but it’s not the one I chose. He told me I could keep the other and wear it on my right hand if I wanted. In the end, he wants me to be happy and he wants me to make the choice. If he has to, he will tell the old bat to shut up about the ring. I know she won’t even if he told her, although I appreciate him offering.
My question is, do I wear this ring and return or cancel the other ring that I love? I’m not even married yet and the old bag is in my business…
Post # 3
Screw what she says! Wear the ring you love!!!!!
Post # 4
The ring you posted is lovely, but you should wear the ring you love. Don’t cancel your order.
Sorry your Future Mother-In-Law is being difficult.
Post # 5
I’ve got a sapphire claddagh and LOVE it! :o) You should have the ring that you want and the your fiance offered you to begin with. His mother shoul dhave nothing to do with this!
Post # 6
Wear the ring you want to wear. If it’s really a big deal to Future Mother-In-Law, wear the Claddagh on your right and this ring on your left when she’s around. In the end, this will matter for a very short period of time – then she’ll be getting in your hair about the various wedding details she doesn’t agree with. Do what pleases you, because you’ll never be able to please her.
Post # 7
ALWAYS wear what you LOVE!
Post # 8
First of all OMG that ring is GORGEOUS! But wear the ring you two initially decided on. Set the precedent NOW that you won’t give into FMIL’s every whim.
Post # 9
You chose a ring you love, which is the only thing that matters. Why on Earth did your fiance let his mother bully him into buying you something else?
I agree the ring is really lovely, but I worry that if you wear this new one, it will just serve as a constant reminder of the time he let his mom’s opinion matter more than yours.
Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds like a nightmare, so I wish you luck.
Post # 10
Go with the original ring you love. If you give into her unreasonable demands now there’ll be no end to them.
Post # 11
This post made me laugh out loud! LOL mothers!!! I say keep both and wear both, alternating, on your left hand as you see fit for the occasion!
Post # 12
I’m a little bit offended by your not so nice Mother-In-Law…I have the claddagh engagement ring you are referring to. There are a few of us Bees that chose it as our engagement ring. It is a beautiful ring. It is not as large as your 2nd sapphire ring but it is lovely. As for me it symbolizes so much more than an engagement.
I think you should wait until you get the claddagh ring from Ireland. Then you can have them side by side and choose the one you love. If you don’t set boundaries now your Mother-In-Law will always be in your business.
By The Way, I wouldn’t let your Mother-In-Law near the bridal store when you go to look for your dress. She needs to remember her place. And, that place is not between you and your FH. Be the pack leader now, it will safe a lot of tears later.
PS: sorry for the “pack leader” comment. I have Golden Retrievers. If I give them an inch they take a mile.
Please share with us which ring you choose and what happened with Mrs. In Your Business.
Post # 13
@SuzieMG95: Holy moly, that ring is gorgeous. Anyway… I agree with PPs. Wear the ring you love and want to symbolize your marriage! People are going to have rude comments regardless of what you get. It’s so frustrating that they’re coming from your Future Mother-In-Law. But your ring is none of her business, and her comments are completely out of line.
Post # 14
wear the one you love and when you are around the mother-in-law wear the other lol then you can have 2 lolol
Post # 15
Thanks for the advice. I’m still not sure what to do. I guess I should wait for the other ring to arrive and see what I think. I know this ring rocks, but it is not the one I or for that matter we chose together.
Post # 16
Since I’m the bee you mentioned and therefore I actually HAVE the engagement ring your mother-in-law is complaining about, I could take offence at her comments, but I think they only go to show how truly ignorant she is–ignorant in the sense that she’s rude, and ignorant in the sense that she has no idea what she’s even talking about here. A Claddagh ring is perfectly appropriate for an engagement ring because when it is worn upside down on the left hand, it means the wearer is engaged, and then you wear it rightside up on the left hand when you are married to indicate your status as a married woman. This ring also comes with a matching wedding band (which I also have). Besides that, the Claddagh symbolizes never-ending love, loyalty, and friendship–all the necessary elements of a strong relationship. Claddagh rings are traditional Irish love rings and are in fact worn as engagement rings and/or wedding rings as a cultural practice! This ring is not about the size of the center stone–it’s about the symbolism in the design. It’s not as expensive as some other engagement rings but by no means is it a cheap ring and I wear it with NOTHING but pure PRIDE!
So everyone else can see the ring you’re talking about: