- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Being in favor of a fairly classic look, but also wanting an affordable/ethical origin ring, my fiance and I settled on this 0.75 carat ring from MoissaniteCo.com:
However, for the wedding band, I’d like something a bit more unique, something meaningful with a pop or two of color. Since his favorite color is blue and mine is red, alternating sapphire or ruby with moissanite/diamond has been the top contender. But I can’t decide between the two; they’re both beautiful.
At first, I’d settled on sapphire, since it represents him, so it seems less– selfish? And more sentimental? And it does actually also match my eyes.
But then I realized that since we’re planning the wedding for July, my favorite gemstone represents the month we’ll be married in… Plus, I have another garnet ring I’ve worn for a long time, so I’m used to wearing something red on my finger, and I think it goes with my personality and a lot of my clothing.
When I asked my fiance about which he’d prefer, he said I should pick what I like. Then, when I said I was conflicted, he said that rubies might look tacky. But, I found pictures of both options:
And I don’t think either is tacky by any stretch of the imagination. They both look beautiful to me!
Any advice for my dilemma? I know it’s probably silly to spend so much time quibbling over which gemstone to use, since this is a wedding and not just an excuse to jewelry shop, but… I want my band to be something meaningful that I love wearing every day and don’t have any second thoughts about.
What I’d really like is to find a way to incorporate both stones, but considering the colors, I’m pretty sure my ring finger would just end up looking like a 4th of July tribute. How can I preserve the symbolism without looking like a fireworks display? Should I get one or the other? Or just get a plain wedding band and maybe later hope for a ruby or sapphire right hand ring as an anniversary gift?