(Closed) Sassy RSVPS

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is the sassy RSVP..
    Tacky : (43 votes)
    34 %
    Cute! : (61 votes)
    48 %
    Undecided : (23 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I love that idea! Unfortunately, fiance’s super-traditional family would go mental over it. Still, I’d consider ordering a few separate sets of invites – these could go to close friends/family that would “get” the joke, and the traditional RSVPs could go to the family and friends that would just be confused by it.

    Post # 4
    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Depends on your audience. Are you a jokester? I like the second idea a lot with the bring a chair and a sandwich. But it def wouldn’t work for me because I’m just not funny like you are lol

    Post # 6
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    yeah depends on audience and i guess how formal your wedding is…

    i would not do it cause it may confuse people and may be harder to get rsvps back faster

    Post # 7
    8487 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I love the second one! May have to steal it. Nothing pisses me off more (in the wedding world) than people that dont RSVP and still expect to be able to show up and get free food. 

    I dont really understand the bell thing though. Unless its just a funny with no backstory to it?

    Post # 8
    4798 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I think it’s funny, but I could never pull off doing something like that. Plus, I know people who would actually not RSVP and show up with a lawn chair and a sandwich… 

    Post # 9
    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Firstly, I love “sassy rsvp”s.

    I also thinking the “if you don’t” is cute and hilarious.  But I would be wary of how the reception of it would be with people like, Fiance grandmother who is 80 and may not get the facetious tone and actually believe we were serious and being rude. o__o

    Post # 10
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I love the first one, but I can see a lot of people not getting it if that makes sense. Second one is a much safer and clearer option, with humour 🙂 


    Post # 11
    435 posts
    Helper bee


    I like the part about the bells, I laughed.  Maybe bring it back to 3 options instead of 4 and include the words yes or no to make it more clear.  For example, 

    Yes, we will be there with bells on

    Yes, we will be there without bells

    No, we will not be there, heard people will be wearing bells


    However, I don’t like the PS part, it comes across as being really rude in my opinion.  It’s fine to joke about something like that here but it’s not appropriate to say something so snarky to your guests.  

    Post # 12
    7097 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Well, speaking as Sassy, I think it’s funny, but I wouln’t do it.  Not everyone in your audience is going to get or like it.

    Something similar for a dinner party with your peers would be fabulous, but not with such a mixed group as wedding guests.

    Post # 13
    6826 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    As another Sassy opinion, plesae do not do this. If your wedding is formal you should be formal accross the board.

    Post # 14
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    IDGAF if people don’t like it, I’m actually doing the first option. I know what you mean about people not getting it, so I’m actually cutting out two of the options and just using “will attend with bells on” and “will not attend, heard there will be people wearing bells.”

    Post # 15
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    hahahahahah I LOVE the bring your own chair and sandwich if you don’t rsvp part. Wish I would have seen that before my wedding.

    Post # 16
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Sassygrn:  I agree that this won’t work for a formal wedding. 

    I don’t like it anyway, even if you were doing a backyard BBQ wedding. It’s just so overdone, I feel like it’s everywhere these days. I love the thing about the chair and sandwich – because what bride doesn’t feel that way – but if I received an invitation with that on it, I’d be really put off.

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