Post # 1
Hello! This is my first board post and I am eager to hear everyones opinions! We are in the very early planning stages for our wedding. Fiance and I are both daytime, not evening, people and we both love brunch foods! It is also cheaper at the venue we chose to have a daytime wedding instead. The ceremony would start at 11am, cocktail hour at 12, and reception lasting from 1-5. We are looking to have a full open bar, omelet station, beef/turkey carving station, bacon, smoked seafood display, red potatoes, among other items. It is going to be a good mix of breakfast and lunch foods. This speaks so strongly of our personality! I just have one major reservation…dancing. We want people to dance! We are going to have a DJ and a full bar. We want it to still be a typical wedding just during the daytime! I know some people have a brunch wedding because they want to avoid dancing..that is not me at all! I want my guests to have a wonderful time and eat, drink, and dance! So my question is, if you were at a wedding from 1-5 with drinking and a DJ, would you still dance? I know some people say that if people like to dance, they’ll dance no matter what time it is. I just wanted to get an opinions. I don’t want the dance floor to be empty. So would you dance no matter what time it was? The venue we picked has windows with curtains that could be closed and lights on a dimmer so it can get darker for dancing. I’d love opinions! Also, if you were a brunch bride, what was on your menu? I’m looking for different food ideas too. Thank you!!!! =)
Post # 3
From the weddings I’ve seen, if you have people who want to dance, they will dance. The open bar and DJ will definitely work in your favor.
The last wedding was night time, but they chose to do an iPod playlist and cash bar, but people were itching to dance, so there was dancing. It all depends on your people.
Post # 4
I would definitely dance, but you might have to ask your DJ to stick on the classier side. I don’t know what your taste in music is, but I wouldn’t do too much booty shaking at that hour… but I’d definitely like some more old-timey upbeat jazz or something, and I would definitely dance!
I bet a waffle bar would be fun, too. One or two kinds of waffles, like plain and chocolate chip, for example, with a whole bunch of toppings to choose from.
Post # 5
We had a Saturday brunch wedding! Honestly, no one danced though. We did a first dance and that was it. However, we did not have a full bar, just beer, wine, bloody Mary’s, and mimosas. Also, we did not have a typical DJ, we had a friend do the music through his computer. It was also a sunny day with a patio at our venue and a lot of people stayed outside, so maybe some of those factors will make a difference.
Our menu was very typical brunch food. We had a ham, smoked salmon, eggs, fruit, salad, potatoes, french toast, etc. We also did coconut shrimp and something else for passed apps after the ceremony. The food was really good!
Post # 6
I would definitely dance but FI and I have been taking lessons all year so now we look for opportunities to dance.
I think you have to look at your guest list to decide how much of a dancing crowd it is. The major factors that influence dancing are a) the guest list b) alcohol and c) music that people like. I think time of day is also a factor but a lesser one. If you have game guests, an open bar and good music, there will be dancing.
Post # 7
With an open bar and a DJ I think people will absolutely be dancing, regardless of the time of day! I know I’d be out there!
Post # 8
We also had a Saturday lunchtime wedding and people didn’t dance. We had put together an iPod playlist so they could if they felt up to it, but people ended up just socializing, which was fine. Also, our wedding was outdoors, so that may have changed the vibe a bit. I think your ideas of dimmer lighting, etc. sound good if you want to encourage dancing.
Our menu was lunch food, so no advice there. But we did have an ice cream cart, which people loved. I like the waffle bar idea!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’ve been to a brunch wedding, and yes, people did dance. A lot of that will depend on the music, and the bride & groom- if you two, and your bridal party are dancing, others will join!
Post # 10
I would definitely dance, and breakfast food is my favorite kind of food, so I would be super happy AND dancing.
And I second the idea for a waffle bar. God. That would be the best wedding ever.
Post # 11
I think it could work, but I’d choose my playlist carefully. Think more upbeat and fun songs like party stuff from the 60’s – 80’s and lighter love songs from the last 20 years as opposed to super sexual songs or a lot of hardcore gangster rap.
The food sounds awesome! Love brunch!
Post # 12
Thanks so much for all the ideas everyone! I want to have a typical wedding but just in the daytime! I do know some people who are not big dancers and that is why they chose to have a daytime wedding. They just had background music and light alcohol. That is great for some people, but FI and I want to still have a DJ and full open bar. We want to have just as lively dancing as if it were night time. My ideal time would be from 3-7 but I’m not sure if that is possible. Also, that is not brunch time, correct? The menu would have to change right? This is all new to me and I appreciate any advice!! Thanks so much everyone!! I also love the waffle idea =)
Post # 13
eeeeeek!! That’s my worry too! And our venue is all windows so I know if it’s bright people are more self conscience. ( I’m praying for a rainy day!). Our plan is to have drinks flowing right away and a great band!!!
Post # 14
Bump! Would love to hear from others who did this !!
Post # 15
If there is good music, I’ll dance!
Post # 16
I would not get your heart set on having a “regular wedding just during the daytime”. As a wedding photographer, who has photographed numerous daytime/brunch weddings, no one ever dances. I mean that in all sincerity, not to be mean (as I actually think morning weddings are lovely and low key). You might have a handful of people dance, but the majority won’t. Something else to consider, most people will also not stay that long. You have to keep in mind, even a heavy drinker/partier isn’t going to raging hard during the daytime.
It’s important to remember that sometimes the things we think we’re doing to save money, end up being a waste of money in the long run. Having an early wedding, and putting the money saved into an open bar and DJ might sound good – but it becomes a waste if people are dancing/drinking. KWIM?
In the end, plan the wedding you want to have, I just think it’s important to have realistic expectations. I’ve been to weddings where the guests are generally a rowdy bunch, yet everyone stayed tame and there wasn’t much dancing – definitely a surprise to the couple who assumed their reception would get crazy!