Post # 1
I’m getting married on a Sunday and so my rehersal dinner will be on a Saturday night. While I don’t fully observe Shabbat, some of my friends and relatives do. My wedding is at the end of May so Shabbat isn’t over until 9:00. I don’t want to start my rehersal dinner THAT late because the next day will be long and I want to be rested for my wedding, but I don’t feel comfortable starting it on Shabbat due to many of my guests. Any advice?!?! Thanks!!
Post # 3
Maybe have it at a restaurant within walking distance of where they are staying? Still might not be OK with them though… Or you could do an early dinner Friday night before Shabbat.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey
I second the suggestion to have the dinner within walking distance, that way your observant guests can join you a bit later. If you start your dinner at 8, by the time everyone gets seated and apps get served, etc., shabbat would have ended. Just make sure you reserve food and seats for them, and I’m sure they’ll be understanding.
Because of a scheduling snafu, our wedding ended up starting after sunset but before shabbat officially ended. Our more observant guests just joined us a little bit later in the evening. We also did havdallah right before the ceremony for our less observant friends. Everyone was very gracious and understanding about the whole thing.
Good luck! Let us know what you decide to do.
Post # 5
Ditto, that’s about all you can do since you’ve opted to have the dinner on a Saturday.
We aren’t having any dinner; FI and I feel like we’ll be doing enough the day of and it’s just too much of everything in a weekend. But we are having an auf ruf and since there’ll be a lunch component to that, it’ll be some time to spend with family before the festivities.