Post # 1
hello i am planning a jewish wedding. if on a saturday evening would have to start after sundown. if i have it on a sunday would have to start early am because fiance is opposed to late sunday evening affairs due to interference with work schedule. we can afford a nicer place on a sunday. please give me your thoughts.
Post # 3
We’re doing a Sunday Jewish wedding with an 11 am ceremony and the party ending at 4 pm. I would say the majority of Jewish weddings I have been to are on Sundays. We are going to a family wedding on a Saturday and the ceremony isn’t even starting until 8 pm. I don’t personally think I would want a wedding that late because I worry that people would leave so early into the actual party.
Post # 4
I’m confused about the Sunday/work schedule thing. Does your FI have to work on Sundays? He could take the day off, yes?
If the concern is your guests, clearly they are not going to party until the wee hours with you on a Sunday night. But as long as the reception is over at a reasonable hour, there shouldn’t be a problem. My (Saturday) wedding is at 4:30; reception starts at 5:00; everybody can easily be home and in bed (if that’s what they want) by 10:00 at the latest. You could start a little earlier than that, or even have a Sunday late morning wedding with a lunch reception if you like.
Post # 5
We decided to have our Jewish ceremony at 8pm on a Saturday evening because we knew people would not want to stay late on a Sunday and then drive 4-6 hours home to be back in time for work on a Monday morning (Our wedding was in a remote location for most of our guests).
We are doing the cocktail hour before the ceremony from 6:30 – 7:30 so people won’t be hungry, and are feeding them right after the ceremony. While we know we will lose some of the older crowd, we feel that most people will feel comfortable staying until 12:30 – 1am.
HOWEVER, if I hadn’t wanted a spring/summer wedding, our Saturday evening reception could have been much earlier in the evening since sundown is much earlier during the late fall/winter. Have you decided on the specific weekend yet?
All of that said, if most of your guests have a short drive home, then a Sunday midday wedding sounds lovely! And there’s certainly something to be said for those lower Sunday rates!
Post # 6
I am also doing a Sunday wedding. Our ceremony will be starting at 5, cocktail hour from 6:00 to 7:00pm, reception ending at 11pm.
I realize that most of the older crowd will be leaving after dinner (somewhere around 8:30 or so)… but with the younger crowd sticking around, we’ll still be finished at a reasonable hour, 11:00pm.
There is about a 45min drive, so I already know that all of our guests won’t be sticking around all night, but it also gives us an opportunity to have a sort-of "after party" with our closest friends and younger family.
Hope that helps!
Post # 7
I’m not Jewish, so I apologize if this isn’t an option, but my fiance and I are doing a Friday night wedding. We got a great discount, and since most of our family/friends are coming in from out of town, it gives us a chance to spend time with themthe next day (Saturday) before they need to leave on Sunday morning to get back and get settled in for the work week. Most will have to take off of work on Friday to make it down for the wedding, but everyone seems quite excited to get away for the weekend. So, just a thought!
Post # 8
What time of year is your wedding? If it’s winter than sundown is nice and early and would work fine. Also depends on if most guests are from out of town. If not, Sunday is great, but if they have to travel I think it’s a burden on the guests unless it’s a lunch time affair.
Post # 9
Our wedding will be in the spring- march april. Fiance is against sunday evening affair because guests have to work the next day and want to be in their beds not at a wedding. I was not thrilled about sunday am bc I will be tired waking up at 5am and most guests probably don’t want to wake up early to travel to a wedding on a sunday?Guests will have to travel at leaast 1-1.5 hours to get to the wedding and if they are from out of town they will need to travel 4 or more hours. only small amount of guests from out of town. 5-10% of guests out of town.
Post # 10
Have you solidified the weekend, because I’m a Sunday bride over Memorial Day weekend, which practically makes it like a normal Saturday…and it’s been great! We’re having a lot more OOT guests than I ever imagined, simply because they have all of Monday to travel back…
Another thought: could you have an afternoon (1:00?) wedding with the reception wrapping up earlier in the evening, say 8 or 9???
For OOT guests, there’s usually SOME taking-off of time…maybe just a half-day?
Post # 11
I think it depends a bit on what kind of wedding you want and what your guests are like. If you want to be a big, fun party, saturday (or sunday on a long weekend) is the way to go. If you are looking for something more lowkey, then Sunday is ok. I have been to a fair number of jewish weddings and people are less likely to drink, stay late, dance a lot etc. on a Sunday. I have also been to saturday night weddings where we weren’t served dinner until almost 11, but the crowd at that wedding didn’t seem to mind and we had a blast!
I think a winter Saturday wedding is a great idea because you can start it at a more reasonable time! and Sunday on Memorial and Labor day weekend are popular – but holiday weddings have their own concerns (guests might have plans, hotel and airfare rates are likely higher, etc)