(Closed) Save for a “the” wedding or just have what you can afford?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll:
    Wait and Save : (18 votes)
    28 %
    Now with what you can afford : (46 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have a hard time with the idea of spending buckets of money on one day … so I would (and will be) having the wedding we can afford next summer, because there are so many bigger things I would rather (and have) spent my money on (new house, new car, laptop computer) … we we want to get on with having babies …

    Post # 4
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    184 posts
    Blushing bee

    I vote wait and save. True, a wedding is just one day, but it’s a very important day. Better to make it one that you look back and remember fondly, rather than regretting your choices years down the line. Plus, it will give you more time to plan which means you can get the vendors you want and fill the day with special details.

    Post # 5
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    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would probably have a wedding that I could afford. I’d wait 2 years top from being engaged, personally. Any longer and I’d go nuts, but I would of course want a nice wedding too!

    Post # 6
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    i voted wait and save….. FI and I are waiting because we are footing the bill and would like a nice wedding

    Post # 7
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i voted now and what you can afford – reason being i was ready to begin my life with my FI NOW and wouldnt like the idea of waiting for a year or so

    but then again 1, money isnt too much of an issue for us and 2, we eloped so im not most brides here on WB

     

    Post # 8
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    How important is an expensive wedding to you?  Are you someone who has been dreaming of a big, fancy wedding since you were a little girl, or are you the kind of girl who would prefer a small, intimate affair?  Try to picture yourself in 5 years, perhaps with some kids, and think about whether you are more likely to regret not having an expensive wedding or are you the kind of person who will eventually wish you had spent that money for a down payment on a house?  Unfortunately, only you and your FI can decide this one since it is your priorities that will affect your memories of your wedding day.

    Post # 9
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

    Well, it depends. I could have a "platinum wedding" in 5 years or so, but that’s absurd! We’ll have a perfectly nice wedding next year. But we can’t afford to have one, say, next month.

    Is your dream wedding something out of a "Platinum Weddings" episode, or is it something you could save for in a reasonable amount of time? I think you have to weigh how much you can save against how long you want to wait.

     

    Post # 10
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    2820 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We’re waiting, and for financial reasons, but we could afford the wedding we want now ($5000 budget, and our estimates are coming in under budget)…just not all the stuff afterwards (rent/mortgage, groceries, etc.). We both still live with our parents rent-free, and can (and will) until we graduate from university (three more years!), so we’re waiting and saving. But not because we want a $50K wedding — because we want to be able to be financially stable for afterwards. 

    Post # 11
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I said now with what you can afford as well, but as there is an amount of planning involved it may still be 6 months or so out so you can save a tad bit of money with that.  It isn’t about the wedding day, it’s about the union of two souls into one.  In the end that’s really all that matters no matter if you spend 100,000 or 1000.  Remind of this when I get engaged!!

    Post # 12
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My fiance and I have been talking a lot about this lately. I’m unemployed and his job is kind of in limbo but we’ve decided that no matter what, we are getting married this year. Whether we continue with the wedding we are planning in September or just decided to just have a quick ceremony in his parents backyard and no reception-we just want to be married. Now. And start having babies next year 😉

    Post # 13
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    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

    This is tough, depending on what you like… and how much money you have saved up for a NOW wedding.

    If your not a crazy spender and dont want to spend lots of money on your wedding, than maybe this is a reason for you to do it now. You can DIY and lots of brides have had less than 10K weddings. 

    I waited though, but thats cuz Mr.Flamingo was in school the whole time.

    Post # 14
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    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    For us, we couldn’t justify spending all that money on a few hours, especially in this economy and with both of us being teachers. Instead we went ahead with the budget we had and allocated 50% to the wedding, 30% to our honeymoon, and 20% to savings. No regrets. Shoot, we couldn’t even wait until summer vacation!

    Post # 15
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    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

    there’s so many ways to save and still have your dream wedding, i’m living it right now, and i would hate the idea of waiting another year or more just because i want more money to spend on wedding details.

    Post # 16
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    1064 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I didn’t vote because I want to be married, I love my FI so much. However, wedding’s do cost money, so during our engagement we have been saving like crazy. We splurged on some aspects, but cut corners on others. I could save forever if I wanted everything under the sun, I think most people could, I’m just happy I get to have some things and get to marry the man I love.

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