Post # 1
I sent a save the date (back in January) to my mom’s friends, a couple I have known since I was about 9 years old. Now, the couple is not talking to my mom. My mom said I shouldn’t invite them to the wedding. They are upset with her, not with me. I thought because I sent a save the date, I had to invite them to the wedding. Is that the case?
Post # 3
We’re actually dealing with something similiar. If you ask my FI, a STD is just a “notice of our intention to get married on said date” however, FI has absolutely no idea of the etiquette behind it. Technically speaking, those who you sent STDs to, should be invited to the wedding.
With that said, if these are your parents friends and they are no longer speaking, do you think they’d actually come to your wedding?
Post # 4
I’d just love to see the responses on this!
However, I’m going through the same thing as well. We’re still not sure how we want to handle it.
Post # 5
@UpstateCait: I don’t think they would come … but, they might send a gift to me because we have known each other for so long. Of course I don’t want to invite them just for the gift, but I don’t want them to think I’m angry at them either. Tough call!
Post # 6
I think if something comes up between the STD send out and invitation and you don’t feel comfortable inviting them then don’t. I am pretty sure that person or family will know what is up if they are involved in the conflict.
I am being very cautious with my STD send out because there are some people I very easily could see me not wanting to invite a year from now.
Post # 7
I ended up inviting them … just got their repsonse yesterday and they said, “no.” They didn’t write a note or anything …