Post # 1
I am just about to send out save the dates. Does anyone know the proper etiquette when it comes to the "and guest". Do we need to decide on the "and guest" right now. I have 22 year old cousins with significant others, but who knows if they will even be together in two months. We are only inviting guests for people in serious relationships since it is cost prohibitive to have every guest bring a date. Can I just write the family member’s name or the friend’s name and address the and guest issue when it is time to send out the formal invitations? Any advice on proper protocol would be appreciated.
Post # 3
We did exactly what you were asking about: save the dates to people, and added dates where appropriate on the invites. I’d expect some people will ask you whether their significant other is invited, so have an answer ready anyway.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
We are doing the same thing, only giving "& guests" to the wedding party and those in serious relationships. I actually put the name of their significant other on the save the date, with the hopes that if they broke up between then and the wedding, they wouldn’t bring another random guest just because they got the +1.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I didn’t add "and guest" to our STDs even though we ended up allowing an and guest for every guest. I think it’s safe to just send the STD to your specific friend without any mention of an added guest (unless of course it is someone you know, like their wife or girlfriend or SO that you know you’ll be inviting)
Post # 6
The official ettiquette on the STDs is that you just send it to the person and don’t include the guest…because really, you are just saving-the-date. Of course, as Erin pointed out, you might want to have an answer ready for when peopl inevitably ask about it.