Post # 1
My parents received a STD from a friend a few months ago for their daughter’s wedding. The wedding is now two weeks away and the invitation never came.
What would you do? The mother of the bride is terminally ill but they are closer with the step-father off the bride. Call the step dad? Assume they aren’t actually invited anymore?
Post # 3
In this case, i would ask.
A Save the Date is an informal invitation. They would be MAJORILY in the wrong sending one and not intending to send a proper invitation. It sounds as though the invitation may have actually been lost in the mail.
Post # 4
@RedWine13: Is the mother-of-the-bride NEWLY terminally ill? Maybe they’ve changed their plans.
Post # 7
I would call and ask, because that is really bizarre!
Post # 8
@peachacid: no the mob has been sick for a few years, but a few months ago they learned she will not have much longer. 🙁 They then moved up the wedding 6 months. Such a terrible situation but thankfully the mother should be able to attend.
The save the date was sent after the date change.
Post # 9
@miller_party_of_2: Don’t do this! It’s not very nice to ask someone to “hold” a date for you when they are only being deemed important enough to attend the ceremony portion or your day. In general, you can do a private ceremony and then invite more people to your reception, but not the other way around.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I think a call to the step-dad is fine. A save the date gives a heads up for preparation for wedding guests, so they have every reason to think they are still invited.
Post # 12
@miller_party_of_2: Why would you do that?
Post # 13
I would call and ask. The invite may have gotten lost in the mail – we definitely had a handful of invites that never made it to their correct destination.
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Post # 15
@KateByDesign: I would say as long as their plans havent completely changed, then yes they are in the wrong and it probably got lost in the mail. My biggest etiquette mistake was sending save the dates and then we had to cut the wedding down to only 25 extremely close family members and 2 friends for reasons too long to explain. We are still going to throw a reception bbq in both of our home towns and send invites (for that) to everybody who got a STD. …but everybody has known that we changed plans for a few months.
Post # 16
@RedWine13: I would call and ask the step-father, because it sounds most likely to me that there was a mixup and they forgot to send the invite. (And then they would be wondering why you haven’t RSVP’d). But I would ask in a way that I am understanding if their plans have changed.