Post # 1
Our wedding date is still fairly far off, but I’ve been thinking about what to do in terms of Save the Date cards for some of our international guests and need advice! I have a penpal in Germany that I’m very close with and though she already knows about our wedding, I want to send her a formal Save the Date! One of our favorite things about being penpals is that we send actual mail to each other rather than emails or Facebook blasts, so I already know I want to mail her a physical STD (I really hate that acronym!).
Anyhow, I’ve already told her the date we’re trying to get, but since we haven’t booked a venue and made it official yet, I want to wait until we do that so that I can be fairly sure the date won’t change. Should I send her a Save the Date as soon as we book our venue so she can begin planning on how to save/travel/etc.? Should I send her an informal online STD when we book our date and then send her physical STD with the rest of our local guests? I don’t know what to do!
Also: she’s been planning to visit the States for a long time now, but hasn’t been able to thus far. I think our wedding gives her the incentive she’s really been looking for to finally make the trip. That being said, I want her to be able to make a vacation out of this and both come to our wedding AND do all the fun Chicago things I’ve been telling her about for 10 years. I’ve been looking into various airlines that give points for travel and was thinking that if I could amass enough points, I’d gift them to her to help pay for her airfare. I’m not doing the same for other guests, though. Is that OK?
Post # 3
That’s awesome that she’ll be able to come! I think a physical save the date after you have the venue picked is a great idea; you can just have one made/printed especially for her and then do the rest of them later.
I love that you want to help her with her travel; my recommendation is to use an Amex card for points b/c they are one of the only programs that lets you freely transfer miles. With most airline mileage programs, when you transfer miles, charge a transfer fee that ends up being a pretty significant amount (just as much as if you bought the miles). With the Amex points, you can amass points and then when she gets ready to book travel, you can transfer those points to the appropriate airline program. You wouldn’t want to sign up for individual programs and have some miles here, some miles there, and then she gets to book and the only available flight is on an airline you don’t have miles with.
Post # 4
I definitely think its okay to send her a save the date early! And of course you can verbally tell her as well as soon as you know for sure. My fiance’s family is all on the other side of the world, so they’re getting all of their invitations and such early (even though they all know the date already).
Speaking of great travel reward cards – we just got a Chase Sapphire Preferred card. Its pretty awesome. When we opened ours (just a few weeks ago), the first year fee was waived and if we spend $3000 in the first 3 months, we get 40,000 bonus points which can be transferred to airline miles 1:1 if we’d like with no penalty or fee. Plus, if you book travel through their travel concierge, travel is 20% off (so a $500 ticket, would actually be the equivalent of a $400 ticket in points). We spent a really long time thinking about which card to get for travel rewards, and this seems to be one of the best ones. Its so nice that you’re planning to help your friend with travel. Seriously awesome. Good luck!