Post # 1
So we finally decided on a save the date! We went through minted.com and used this design:http://www.minted.com/product/save-the-date-cards/MIN-8R1-STD/photogenic
and listed our first names on the save the date and on the back.
So here’s why I’m bummed and so mad at myself!! To save on return address printing, we ordered an address stamp on etsy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/113033495/calligraphy-handwriting-custom-return?ref=shop_home_feat
It also has our first names..I guess I didn’t realize that our last names are NO WHERE on the save the date. We list our wedding website on the back of the save the date and our website has both our names…
I was so excited about our stamp but now worried that people may not know its our save the date because we didn’t list our last names… We have a photo on the front so immediate family will know, but I’m worried about extended family.
What should I do?
-Order another stamp? and risk sending them out late?
-make labels? I was avoiding labels and was going to try to do mail merge with guest addresses
The only thing I am feeling ok about is that I haven’t sent anything out yet….
Post # 3
I didn’t vote because I don’t see a big issue here that would require you to make changes. Your/His extended family really doesn’t know you well enough to even recognize you in a picture?
Post # 4
Are you inviting people who won’t make the connection? I feel like when people see your first names and faces on the card, they’ll figure it out…
Post # 5
If you have a picture of you and FI, I think you will be fine. even my extended family who Ihaven’t spoken to in YEARS know what I look like 🙂
Post # 6
@maybride53114: I’m not putting our last names on our save the date at all. The whole front is a picture and it’ll say our first names. A, my last name is super long, and B, if the people I’m inviting don’t know who we are from our photo and our first names, I don’t think I want them at my wedding! Even our Etsy stamp (probably like yours) has just our first names on it, because I liked it like that. I think you’ll be fine with them as they are!
Post # 7
Maybe only on the Save the Dates to the family members that you are questioning you could hand write the return address to include last name?
Post # 8
@maybride53114: I wouldn’t change anything. STDs usually go out to family and friends not? If they do they should know who you are based off the picture and first names.
Post # 9
@Jen041815: +1… if they can’t recognize me from a picture, they wouldn’t be getting an invite, and I think you should say the same! That’s a little silly!
Post # 10
TBH, if someone can’t recognize at least one of us based on our first name and picture I wouldn’t really want them at my wedding anyways. I don’t think you need to change anything.
Post # 11
your picture is on it – how will they not know who you are?!
Post # 12
@maybride53114: I didn’t vote – just wondering about sending Save the Dates to people who won’t recognize either you or your FI. Would they want to know or to attend your wedding? Or are these relatives who live far away and haven’t seen you or your FI recently, but would love to come to the wedding??
Post # 13
My sister’s save the date had a picture and first names only. It would’ve been fine, except my dad invited his entire office. Who didn’t know her and her husband very well (or at all). They had no idea who “Erin and Wai” were. AWKWARD.
As long as y’all aren’t doing anything like that, you should be okay.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! I just realized it this morning and I was reading a website that mentioned to use both names and “formal invitation to follow.” We did neither..so I had a bridal freakout moment.
There are some people that my parents are inviting that I don’t know personally which is why I was concerned. Also, some out of state extended family that only my fiance knows.
I think I may just keep my original idea and for those who I don’t know personally, I will have my fiance or parents call to let them know their save the date is on the way…
Post # 15
@maybride53114: hahah my sister and her FI didn’t even put their names on their STD’s! I wouldn’t worry too much! They just put on their return addresses the last name, they didn’t even have a wedding website so your safe lol
Those STD’s are so cute btw.
Post # 16
I didn’t vote because I don’t think it’s really an issue. We only had our first names on our save the dates. If someone doesn’t know who we are based on our first names and photo, they probably shouldn’t be attending our wedding.