Save the Date didn't arrive – do we send another? (a bit of back story…)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Say you mailed all of them and they’ll just have to wait for their invitation.  Things get lost in the mail and a Save the Date is not required anyway.

Post # 3
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

beachbride1216:  agree. Tell her it’s in the mail somewhere but if she’s concerned she can tell her friend the date/location herself. 

Post # 4
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Tell her you no longer have any STDs in stock and that all of them have been mailed. You are not responsible for them getting lost in transit and that the person in question will recieve an invitation when they go out.

Do not let this woman continue into having her way or you’ll be setting a very bad prescedent for the actual marriage and your interactions with her and her family.

Post # 6
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

Same thing happened to me, we got about 3 cards back. I sent them out digiatlly to those who claimed they didn’t get them. Some people said they never got them at all. I am going to verifiy the address before I send out the actual invitations. Hopefully they are all recieved.

 

Post # 7
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1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Your FMIL is being ridiculous, but that’s besides the point. You agree to invite these people. You sent a STD. She probably told them one was on their way to them (or how else would they know they didn’t get it?). It would be rude of you to not send one, and would reflect poorly on you (because now they know they were supposed to get one, so they would be very confused as to why you wouldn’t just resend it).

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