Post # 1
Hi… Ok, so I have a question…
Who do I address the Save The Date to? If I am going to invite someone + guest to the wedding, does that mean I address the Save The Date to the someone + Guest? Or just to the someone?
I want to invite my Uncle Fred (who is a widow) +1. Do I send the Save the date to just my Uncle Fred (and the invite to Uncle Fred +1) or do I send both to my Uncle Fred +1?
Am I making any sense? Any and all feedback is GREATLY appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
We sent our Save the Dates to "Uncle Fred and Guest ", if we’d decided to invite the person with a plus one. That way they had the heads up from way before the wedding that they could plan to bring a date. We will then reiterate that on the invitation. And if someone got a Save the Date that just said "bob Smith" and thought to themselves "ah, they must be waiting to add my plus one to the invitation", they’ll figure out when the invitation arrives addressed just to "bob smith" that they’re not getting a plus one.
Hope that helped!
Post # 5
We actually didn’t add the "and guest" to our save the date envelopes. Guess we figured it left us some flexibility! I think addressing the invitations that way will give people plenty notice about finding a date. And if they can’t find someone in that time frame, maybe they should think twice about who they would be bringing. 🙂
Post # 6
I think that is a great idea, August. Keep your options open. So many brides come to regret that they offered a +1 on the Save the Dates. It is so much harder to take that back than to have never offered it as a choice.
Post # 7
I agree with the posters above. Address STDs with both names to couples living together. But for singles, even in a relationship, adress it to the single person only and add in the “other” name on the actual wedding invite. The exception being if your wedding is one where a perosn will need to fly. It might be nice to give them a heads up if they can bring a guest so they can make travel arrangements for two.
Post # 8
We invited all single people with an "and guest", but I didn’t put it on the Save the Dates. I just thought it seemed kind of silly; since the Save the Dates were just really informal and fun. But I think technically wedding etiquette dictates you should put the "and guest" if that’s how you plan on addressing their invitations.
Post # 9
Do it like you would do the invites because the STDs are only an informal invite.
Post # 10
WOW! Thanks for all the great advice ladies! 🙂
Post # 11
I think either would be fine. You can always add it on the formal invite.