- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I would just send it out for the actual ceremony--the part you'd most want people to attend. Sending it out for a post-wedding party seems a little unusual.
I hate to sound weird because I don't know your reasons, but wouldn't it just be better to have a bigger wedding than to have two separate parties? I would think it would be cheaper to pay for the 110 guests' lunch once, not twice. Again, don't know the logistics but it might be better if you're worried about people getting left out to just have a bigger wedding to begin with!
Thanks for asking - I should have clarified this - my FH and I are paying for the smaller "real" wedding ceremony that's going to take place over Memorial Day wknd @ 2-3 hrs from where most guests live. The post-wedding party is going to be hosted by FH's parent's at the country club in his hometown. Having the larger party was our way of giving his parents their own party to plan and invite whomever they want (they're including everyone on my family's list too).
I do think it's weird to send out the std for the larger party - but I'm imagining a really awkward situation when my FH's 50 relatives who celebrate Thanksgiving togetehr start talking about the wedding, and only some are invited. Even thought people know we're having a smaller wedding, it's a real departure from my FH's family's typical wedding where everyone is always invited. I have a fantasy that if everyone already knows they're invited to the larger party after the wedding, it might not be as awkward.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MissBoPeep | 77 |
| hisgoosiegirl | 44 |
| beargoose | 44 |
| akp0702 | 41 |
| Mrs.KMM | 40 |
| ndreighton | 38 |
| stardustintheeyes | 36 |
| BetterSherm | 35 |
| Beckster329 | 33 |
| Gemstone | 31 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| violet25 | 13 |
| stardustintheeyes | 12 |
| BetterSherm | 10 |
| mainejen | 8 |
| les105 | 5 |
| rebwana | 4 |
| clumsylawyer | 4 |
| Beckster329 | 4 |
| MsPoodles | 4 |
| 2PeasinaPod | 3 |
My FH and I have having a (relatively) small wedding in May 2010 for @ 100-110 people, and we will have a larger post-wedding celebration, probably a lunch or bbq at a country club at some point over the summer or early fall 2010 for @ 200 guests. The 100-110 invited to the wedding are included in the 200 guests for the post-wedding party.
What do people think about sending out a save the date for the post-wedding celebration at the same time we send out the std's for the wedding? The hope is to avoid confusion among the relatives when some receive save the dates for the wedding and some do not. And, they also will know that we were thinking of them from the start, and not just an afterthought. (Even thought they know we're having a smaller wedding, most relatives probably still expect that they will be part of the 'smaller' group.)
If you do think sending out a std is a good idea... Since everyone invited to the actual wedding will also be invited to the post-wedding celebration we could either send out 2 separate versions of the save the dates (one for those invited to wedding + few wks after wedding celebration and one for those only invited to the few wks after the wedding celebration) or we could send those invited to the wedding a separate save the date for the wedding and the post-celebration.