Post # 1
Have any of you done save the date invites? I’m getting married in June, and we have considered them. Are they really necessary? they seem like an unnecessary cost, but I could also see how they are beneficial.
Post # 2
We did them…but I definitely don’t think it’s expected. We decided to send them because our wedding will be about 2.5-3 hours away from most guests, so we want them to have plenty of time to reserve a hotel/B&B.
If you’re having a destination wedding or if it’s on a usually busy weekend (summer, holiday, etc) it may be a good idea.
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Post # 3
Futurecalise: Save the Dates and invitations (not invites) are two different things.
Save the Datres started being used when extra notice was needed, for a destination wedding, a wedding on a long weekend or holiday etc. They do give your guests more time to plan, especially out of town guests.
Now they are commonly used because couples want to claim the weekend as theirs, and because they are fun. They are not necessary in many cases.
Invitations are commonly issued 2-3 months before the wedding.
Post # 4
I’m getting married in June too 🙂 The 20th. What about you?
Post # 5
Futurecalise: It’s not totally necessary but it’s a great way to inform everyone about your wedding and also great way for your out of town guest to plan. It’s great reminder, you don’t have to mail all your save the date if you don’t want to you can do E-savethedates that will save you money. <br />
Post # 6
We did save the dates because over half our guest list [from my husbands side] was over 2200 miles away from our wedding location. I didn’t send them to anyone within a short drive of the wedding location.
Post # 7
Futurecalise: Our wedding is next August. We are not sending out save the dates, as we viewed them as an extra cost that could be better spent elsewhere. Any guests that we were somewhat concerned about taking off work etc we just called to let them know about what day we will be having our wedding.
Post # 8
They were a waste of time and money for me. However, my family was asking about dates really early so that they could make travel plans (the wedding is out of town for almost everyone). Nine months before the wedding, I sent an email to those we were absolutely certain would be invited. I only told them the date and city. Three months after that, I sent them another email with the link to our wedding website, since people still wanted details!
Post # 9
We did engagement notes + sort of save the dates as the same card, we are getting married in Vegas (from Australia) and we have family in Europe and dotted over Australia. But we are having a small wedding we know we won’t get many, if any guests there. So we are not really doing invites, there’s no sit down reception or anything. I think your stationary can be whatever you like, it can be super expensive too, so i wouldn’t worry about it, you can also send the invites out a little earlier if your worried about people missing out
Post # 11
Just sent out our Save the dates last week. We did them for several reasons and some were:
1. We have people coming from all over the world that need advance notice
2. Its around a religious holiday and we dont want people to make other plans(i didnt do it on purpose)
Post # 12
We did STD postcards that included hotel information for guests, because about 90% of our guests will need hotel rooms.
Post # 13
we didn’t. We’re older (in our 40s) and I think our friends and relatives would have been confused. LOL
okay. you already told us you were getting married. .what do we do with this postcard?
But I do enjoy seeing getting them. I put them on the fridge and it reminds me that I have to fit in a nice dress shortly. Stay out of the fridge!
Post # 13
LeeBee88: I’m getting married the 20th as well!!!
Post # 14
julies1949: thank you! Sorry for the mix up there. I did mean a difference in save the dates and formal invitations. Since it is a June wedding, I feel we should get on this quickly.
I only considered them since it is a June wedding and people will be traveling for vacations. But none of my guests are really out of town. So decisions, decisions.