Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
When did you/are you mailing save the dates for your wedding? Ours is May 30, 2015 and I’m not clear about when these need to be out by-I get different answers everywhere. Our wedding is only 40 min away from where we live and most of our guests live near by.
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
4-6 months depending on how far guests are traveling. Further the travel the sooner the STD goes out.
Post # 3
Pebba1027: Our wedding is june 13 and we sent them out in july b/c we were afraid of people not coming for summer vacation purposes
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Date twin! Ours went out to those who will be traveling about three months ago – BUT I got in early because there is another family wedding involving travel four weeks before ours and I’m keen to have as many family members as possible attend our wedding. I haven’t sent them to non traveling guests yet.
Post # 5
Pebba1027: My wedding is April 25. I tried to get them out the week of October 25th but they are still slowly trickling out as we get more addresses. All of our guests are coming from a significant distance.
.Since travel isn’t really an issue for you, you just have to think about when you plan to send your invites. I think 8 to 10 weeks before the wedding is pretty common for a local wedding so that’s like mid-March for you. But some caterers require a firm count sooner then others so that might back up your invite date. In any case, I think if the STD are too close to the invite, there isn’t much point to the save the date. So I would definitely have them out before the end of the year.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
Pebba1027: Date twins! We sent ours out the first week of this month but I wish we’d sent them out earlier. I’m fully aware that most of our family in Europe (we’re getting married in California) won’t be able to attend because I was lazy and put off mailing them for so long. 🙁
Anyway, I really advocate sending them out early because:
- People with limited vacation time/that go through busy periods at work may need to put in their request for a day off.
- May is an extremely busy season for graduations – we actually changed our date from May 16th to May 30th because most of my FI’s American family would be at one graduation or another.
- There’s literally no point in sending out a save the date if you’re going to be sending out invitations shortly after.
Post # 7
Pebba1027: We sent ours a little less than a year out becasue 90% of our guests are from out of town and have to make travel arangements.
It could be totally cute if you still wanted to send a Save the Date to send them as or in conjunction with a holiday card!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
We’re getting Married May 9th, and we just sent out the bulk of our STDs, though we started handing them out in October. Most of our potential guests are local, but we do have some family scattered through the US and Canada, so we wanted to give them 5 to 6 months notice – most of them already know the date, though, since that’s the first question they asked after they found out we’re engaged. From what I’ve read, if you don’t think there will be scheduling conflicts and the great majority of the guests are in town, you don’t really need to send STDs.
Post # 9
Most of our guests are from out of town, so we sent them at the start of this month. Although I would have liked to have them out in August. I think that now is a good time to send them even if your family is close. You don’t want it to be too close to invitations or it will defeat the purpose.
Post # 10
Pebba1027: I think they should go out at least a couple months before your wedding invitations go out, otherwise there’s not much point. If your people are local, honestly I don’t think save the dates are necessary at all – I’d just send invites 3 months out and make sure your VIPs know the date (which they probably already do). Though if you do want to send them, at this point, it would be cute to send ones out that double as a holiday card. If you can’t get them out by the new year, I wouldn’t bother.
Post # 11
I sent mine out last week and my wedding is October 2, 2015