(Closed) Save the Date Problem

posted 9 years ago in Paper
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

This is tough one, you want to include all your relatives, but clearly you’ve decided you can not.  Unfortunatly, these extended family members are going to find out anyway… I would not tell ANYONE they are on a “B” list or similar.  If it comes up, you can explain that you have a space limitation, or say something like “we are hoping for an intimate event with a smaller guest list etc.”  If your STD’s are going out well in advance, the word will spread, I would not say “no second cousins” or anything like that because it’s likely that you will have friends in attendance, or family members/friends from your FI’s side… Some family members may feel like their attendance should take priority over a non-family member.  I would encourage you to make a plan, discuss it with your parents and his (if applicable so they’re on the same page and will not waffle or say ‘of course cousin so and so should have received an invite…’) and when Great Aunt Mary calls to whine, you’ll be prepared, and confident to stand by your decision.  This is your day… not theirs. 

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