Save the Date Question!

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria

I think it’s mostly a formality to give a heads up to out of town guests, OR if you’re having a destination wedding, so guests have time to save and plan if they are attending. 

I will probably send them to everyone, because we’re all forgetful, and it’s a physical reminder of oh yes, I need to make arrangements for this weekend, or I need to request this weekend off of work, etc. It’s also a cute way to show off your engagement pictures. 😉 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria

You Don’t Need Save the Dates!

This thread might help you decide too. 🙂

(I should add we are having a small wedding, and I plan on DIYing them, so the cost will not be much in my case, $30-50.)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

There’s really no reason not to send them to everyone. Usually when you buy them, it’s only a few bucks more to purchase a lot more of them. Get ones that don’t require extra postage, and the cost is minimal. Even when you tell people, they forget. I was going through a difficult time and almost missed my friend’s wedding…thank god my fiance (then bf) ran to the refrigerator to look at the save the date and confirm the wedding was THAT DAY. 🙂 (In the strangest twist of fate ever, my friends had to fire their officiant at the last minute, so the wedding was slightly delayed as they got a friend who was ordained somehow to step in to be the officiant, and we didn’t miss anything despite figuring out it was that day at the last minute and then getting lost and battling the weather, etc.)

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  sjhanddab2014.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

KatJoy227:  you don’t need save the dates at all (make a phone call to your out of town guests).  But you should NOT send them to your entire guest list.

sjhanddab2014:  The reason you don’t send them to your whole guest list is because once you send an STD you are obligated to send an invitation.  God forbid your budget changes or you have an emergency that changes what you’re able to spend on your wedding then you HAVE to invite everyone you sent STDs to.  Let alone that relationships change and if you happen to have a falling out with someone over the period of time between your STDs and the wedding you are still obligated to send them an invite.

Only send them to your VIPs, you can send invites to people you didn’t send STDs to – but you can’t uninvite someone once the STDs have gone out

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

LDay1983:  You’re right about not sending them unless you are sure of your guest list. 🙂 What I meant is that even in-town guests might find save the dates useful. 

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