Post # 1
So – we are exactly at the six month mark and need to send out Save the Dates ASAP. We just got them yesterday.
A few questions –
Is it okay to use labels or should we handwrite them?
If we are inviting everyone in a household (say parents’ adult children live with them) should we invite “The Smith Family” or send an invitation to each couple in the family, like you would do with wedding invitations? (send one save the date to parents, 1 to adult child and guest, etc.) Obviously I know if they have children under 18 we are inviting we can just do the Family of.
Also, a cousin’s girlfriend goes by a totally different name than her birth name (birth name is Veronica uses Tammy), do we address her by her birth name?
Regarding guests, we aren’t going to write “and guest” on the save the dates. However, if they are currently in a long-term relationship with someone (I guess more than one year) should we write their names on the save the dates like we would with wedding invitations?
Post # 3
I’m totally in the same boat as you. We got our STD’s last week and they’re still sitting in the box. Technically you should handwrite the addresses but FH and I have decided to do labels which is faster and easier for us right now. I went to staples and bought Avery labels (300 small labels for $15) and the template is online to download to microsoft word. We’re printing it out at home.
For large families I am addressing our STD’s to the “Smith Family” b/c I don’t think one household needs more than one magnet on there fridge. But I will definitely individualize each invitation per couple per same household.
If Tammy is a casual gal I doubt she’ll care if you use her birth name or nickname.
I am only writing names of significant others on the invitation if they both live together or are engaged. But for those only dating for a year, I am putting “and guest.”
Post # 4
I used printed labels as well… they are just Save the Dates… (no need for an ettiquette fairy here….) I used most birth names as well. (Joe and Jane Doe) and for families up to four or five people I had each name. If the names didn’t fit I used the parents & Family. For the single guests I didn’t put a & guest, but I will for the formal invites.
Post # 5
In the case of families if not everyone in the family is getting in invite (in this case parents and one of their daughters who is a close friend), I should send individual save the dates, no? Because I’m assuming that if I send one to the whole family it will be heavily implying the whole family is invited.
Post # 6
Hmmm..I guess you should send individual ones or if space permits you can address the envelope like this:
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
Post # 7
@Cem0930: At 6 months ahead I probably wouldn’t even bother with STD’s, but if you have already bought them you may feel like sending them anyway.
Adults should always receive their own invitations. I used to decline invitations sent to my parents, when I was an adult.
You should always address someone by the name they prefer, as it’s rude to call them something else. Regardless of what their birth certificate says.
You should name each person invited by name. Saying Smith Family is open to more debate (can they bring their cousin Sam Smith, they are part of the Smith Family?)
Post # 8
@andielovesj: Everywhere I have read says to send Save-The-Date Cards at around the 6 month mark (5-7 months according to some sources and 6-8 according to others). Anyways, my wedding planner strongly recommended sending them because our wedding was on a holiday weekend (the Saturday following the 4th of July).