Save The Date Sent…but Actually can't invite them to the wedding

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Uninviting is never okay, IMO.

Post # 3
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

To invite someone then uninvited them is tacky IMO.

is there no way you can squeeze in two more people? I could understand if it was a large number if people you needed to invite but it’s only two?

Post # 4
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Were the people you sent the STD to planning to come?  I agree with PP.  You cannot uninvite.

Post # 5
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Is two people really going to break it? Are they actualy likely to come? To be honest, I would likely just let them stay invited. Even with that small of guest list, 100% coming rate is unlikley.

Post # 6
1437 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

artdeco: Your priority needs to be making sure that the couple who received the STD are invited. There is absolutely no proper way, or “acceptable” reason, to un-invite someone. If that means the two additional people can’t come because you really, truly can’t fit two more people in your space, then that’s what needs to happen.

Post # 7
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Invite them.

I assume you have enough room to accomodate all of those you invites, and it’s a rarity that everyone you invite can make it, so I think you should be okay. Worst case, you need to squeeze in a few extra chairs somewhere.

Make it work.

Post # 8
3088 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

artdeco:  How formal was this invite? If it was sent over Facebook it doesn’t seem very formal…I would still invite the other couple you wanted, as well as the couple you already invited. You have no final numbers yet and everyone’s attendance is not gauranteed. 

Post # 9
3659 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why would you invite people that you “never speak to” to your 42 person wedding in the first place? You can’t uninvite them. Either squeeze in two extra seats or hope that some people RSVP no.

Post # 10
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

artdeco:  Dont stress yet.  Wait for RSVPs maybe you wil have people not able to make it and will be able to invite extra 2

Post # 13
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am completely against uninviting, which is why until my guest list is final I don’t talk about anything wedding related except with my immediate circle I know is invited.  It’s really hurtful and shameful to uninvite.

Post # 14
643 posts
Busy bee

artdeco:  I’m sure you will have some declines. I bet it works out that you can invite the new people and the people you don’t talk to. It’s a bit confusing because this couple you say you don’t speak to made your list but these people you say your partner is close to weren’t considered…

Post # 15
11593 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s incredibly rude to uninvite people.  Honestly, you made your bed, now you have to lie in it.  A Facebook invitation is still an invitation, and rescinding it and not including them on your wedding makes you look rude.

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