Post # 1
OK so I feel like a real D for doing this. We made a guest list of 42 people (not including BP) and we invited this couple. We aren’t super close with them, dont’ talk to them on a regular basis or anything like that. Our venue is small and so we have limited seated space. We sent the guy in the couple a save the date through FB (we don ‘t really know his girlfriend) and unfortunately through some miscommunication, were told that we actually had to invite 2 other people that we didn’t really think about. So we feel kind of bad.
So what should we do? Tell his mom that the 2 people she wants us to invite (that my FI has known since he was a kid and he would rather have there) that we can’t invite them, or tell this couple we never speak to that they can’t come?
Post # 2
Uninviting is never okay, IMO.
Post # 3
To invite someone then uninvited them is tacky IMO.
is there no way you can squeeze in two more people? I could understand if it was a large number if people you needed to invite but it’s only two?
Post # 4
Were the people you sent the STD to planning to come? I agree with PP. You cannot uninvite.
Post # 5
Is two people really going to break it? Are they actualy likely to come? To be honest, I would likely just let them stay invited. Even with that small of guest list, 100% coming rate is unlikley.
Post # 6
artdeco: Your priority needs to be making sure that the couple who received the STD are invited. There is absolutely no proper way, or “acceptable” reason, to un-invite someone. If that means the two additional people can’t come because you really, truly can’t fit two more people in your space, then that’s what needs to happen.
Post # 7
I assume you have enough room to accomodate all of those you invites, and it’s a rarity that everyone you invite can make it, so I think you should be okay. Worst case, you need to squeeze in a few extra chairs somewhere.
Make it work.
Post # 8
artdeco: How formal was this invite? If it was sent over Facebook it doesn’t seem very formal…I would still invite the other couple you wanted, as well as the couple you already invited. You have no final numbers yet and everyone’s attendance is not gauranteed.
Post # 9
Why would you invite people that you “never speak to” to your 42 person wedding in the first place? You can’t uninvite them. Either squeeze in two extra seats or hope that some people RSVP no.
Post # 10
artdeco: Dont stress yet. Wait for RSVPs maybe you wil have people not able to make it and will be able to invite extra 2
Post # 11
The invite was over Facebook. We invited them just because they’re friends with some other people in our wedding party and for some reason we just felt obligated to.
They’re nice people, they’re just not our friends.
We are sending out our invites super early, so just in case we’ll be able to see if someone declines, but because the wedding list revolves around very close guests I’m thinking that the majority intend on coming.
It’s a super small space so putting an extra table is out of the question…so I guess we’ll just have to see some way to make it work I guess.
Post # 12
MrsMeowton: Yeah we’re sending out invites next week so maybe we’ll keep a few spots open and just see what happens.
cmbr: Yeah it was stupid, we just felt obligated to for some reason. They’re friends of many of our guests and we know them, we just don’t really spend any time with them.
AnnaVictoria: Thanks! That’s what it might come down to. We’ll send some invites out and hope we get a couple of No’s. Although the guest list is all of our close friends and family so that seems unlikely. Here’s hoping.
Post # 13
I am completely against uninviting, which is why until my guest list is final I don’t talk about anything wedding related except with my immediate circle I know is invited. It’s really hurtful and shameful to uninvite.
Post # 14
artdeco: I’m sure you will have some declines. I bet it works out that you can invite the new people and the people you don’t talk to. It’s a bit confusing because this couple you say you don’t speak to made your list but these people you say your partner is close to weren’t considered…
Post # 15
It’s incredibly rude to uninvite people. Honestly, you made your bed, now you have to lie in it. A Facebook invitation is still an invitation, and rescinding it and not including them on your wedding makes you look rude.