- 3 years ago
Please help me fix this terrible faux pas!!!
My mother sent out the save the dates yesterday morning. I gave her the tiered guest list and I had her invite tier 1 only, including my friend E. I did NOT send a save the date to my friends J&P (a couple) because they are more social friends and I haven’t known them as long. We are still deliberating over two venues but one of them only fits 80, so I just sent out 80 save the dates, although I think we will be able to squeeze our remaining 15 guests in after other people cancel, including J&O.
The thing I forgot is that E just moved in with J&P since she got kicked out of her apartment! So J&P will see the save the date that I only sent to E!!! WHAT WAS I THINKING???
So I asked my friend to try to snag the mail before they saw it, but she said she never gets home first. So then I asked her to see if she could find out if I was invited to their wedding, which she laughed and said she would do… but I haven’t heard from her yet and I feel so silly and embarrassed.
I should also mention that J and P are getting married in a couple months, and I really didn’t think I was invited. But then I got invited to the bachelorette! I was suprised. I asked my friend who was planning the bachelorette and she said that the list of invitees was from the bride. Does that automatically mean we’re invited to the wedding? I would be suprised because I know they have a small venue and a lot of friends and I know that she is planning this by the books, with all etiquette details accounted for.
I really do like J&P it’s just I haven’t known them that long and had to make some terrible cuts to the list to invite everyone I wanted if we pick the 80 person venue. (I should note that the two venues are very casual and are both reserved for me right now with no payment required. I will be deciding in the next few weeks for sure).
Anyways, what should I do??